In the midst of all of the blowjob debates that were going on people seemed to miss the number of posts and the discussion on interracial relationships. Usually, it’s just me and Mixed Media Watch discussing IR’s, but last week several people got in on the debate. I’m not sure who it started with, but Shannon was the first person to comment (that I noticed), so I’ll start with her
3. Nubian at Blac(k)ademic also weighed in on Shannon’s post here.
4. Skyscraper responded to Nubian’s post here.
5. I also found this response to Nubian’s post here from a blogger named Stephanie S.
6. Here is Racial Realist’s post on why she thinks black people should marry and date each other.
7. Apparently some multiracial activists organized an event called “Loving Day” to celebrate the Supreme Court’s Loving v. Virginia decision which ruled that bans on interracial marriage where unconstitutional. Reappropriate has a good post on why she will not be celebrating Loving Day here. (Her position is similar to my own.)
8. I also found this post by Mojoey. Apparently, James Dobson has a position on interracial marriage, which is interesting.
One of the nice things about the dialogue going on in posts 1-6 is that the debate is entirely between people of color. (Although I don’t see many White people besides myself blogging about IRs, most of the time anyways.) I agree with some of the posts, and I disagree with some others. I think Shannon makes a valid point about stereotypes of Black women and how they affect IRs, but I think she overgeneralizes about how this affects interracial relationships. My sense is that most relationships that are based on racial stereotypes don’t make it beyond the dating stage.
One thing that really gets me frustrated when I read about interracial relationships the whole normativity of same race relationships. When people marry or date people of the same race, their racial views are not interrogated; the racial nature of their relationship is not questioned or noticed largely because it is considered normal. It reminds me of the normativity of Whiteness and how the discussion of race for many people means it’s time to talk about people of color, while whiteness remains unquestioned and invisible. The same can be said for same race relationships, and I think many of the comments in some of these threads reflect a sort of unquestioning acceptance of same race relationships, as if they do not need to be interrogated, as if they are somehow flawless, as if race doesn’t matter in them. I’m not saying interracial relationships do not need to be studied or questioned, but I don’t think it is fair for people to be constantly obsessed with questioning the motives of IR couples when they refuse to do the same for couples where both people are of the same race.