Category Archives: Sex

What I’m Reading – Male Lust: Pleasure, Power, and Transformation

This book, Male Lust: Pleasure, Power, and Transformation, has been on my shelf since the early 2000s. Back then, it was at the top of my to-read list, but circumstances intervened and so I am only picking it up now. I’ve … Continue reading

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My Reading at the 2015 International Conference on Masculinities

ETA: There were some problems with the original version of the video. This one should be better. As well, the text of the poems, which contain explicit descriptions of sex and sexual violence, appear below the fold. On March 5th of … Continue reading

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Red Pills and Ants

Recent events at a blog that rhymes with Shmetal-Moptimized reminded me of the existence of sociobiology and of people who imagine that human beings – and ants and bonobos and every other species — are driven primarily by biological imperatives, … Continue reading

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MRAs and Anti-Feminists Have Ruined Complaining About Being Single

Remember the 1955 movie “Marty”? It was a respected oldie when I was a kid (it’s one of only two films to win both the Best Picture Oscar and the Cannes Palme d’Or), but it’s now pretty obscure. I saw … Continue reading

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Tonight, I’ve Been Thinking About Sex

I am trying to remember the first time I understood, really understood, that sex was nothing but touch, that I wanted the sex I had to be about finding ways to touch people that would leave them feeling fully and … Continue reading

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Unclear on the Contraception

This notion that birth control pills are now “free,” as Romney claimed in his conference call to donors, needs to end. They are now simply covered by health insurance, which many of us pay for via hefty monthly premiums. We’re actually getting someth… Continue reading

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S&M Aftercare… Or Brainwashing?

[Crossposted from Clarisse Thorn’s blog.] Yes, it’s another article about abuse and S&M, but I’m going to cover a lot more than that. I’ll talk about intimacy and bodily reactions and how these things build a relationship — whether consensual … Continue reading

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Writing about Sex Roles: A Book by Clarisse Thorn and an Essay by Me

For a couple of years now, Clarisse Thorn has been interviewing and hanging out with the community of pick-up artists, a community she finds fascinating and… well, from a feminist perspective, sort of problematic, too. There’s an unbelievably compelling thing … Continue reading

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Fragments of Evolving Manhood: The “Cunt Poem” Challenge

Trigger warning for a brief mention of sexual violence. I have not posted a Fragments of Evolving Manhood piece on a long while, mostly because my attention has been focused elsewhere, but I have been working these past couple of … Continue reading

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Abortion, Parenting, and the Government

Last year I read a piece written by a woman who worked in a court system in her state. It was an eye-opener for me, because it laid out in detail how apparently small single requirements could in fact be … Continue reading

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