{"id":1517,"date":"2005-04-29T05:29:56","date_gmt":"2005-04-29T12:29:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.amptoons.com\/blog\/archives\/2005\/04\/29\/well-i-always-knew-that-fairytale-stories-were-crap\/"},"modified":"2005-04-29T05:29:56","modified_gmt":"2005-04-29T12:29:56","slug":"well-i-always-knew-that-fairytale-stories-were-crap","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/?p=1517","title":{"rendered":"Well I always knew that "fairy tale" stories were crap."},"content":{"rendered":"

I never really did buy into the whole damsel-in-distress-but-don’t-worry- your-prince-charming-will-come-and-save-you b.s. that goes along with a lot of fairy tales. The idea that all your problems in life will disappear when some handsome fella comes along and sweeps you off your feet really isn’t something young girls should be told to expect out of life and relationships. Certainly don’t think that perhaps if you just “behaved” in the way he wants you to then he’ll turn into that “Prince Charming” your favorite girlhood fairy tale promised you he would be. All of this fairy tale “one day my prince will come and make everything all better” nonsense that we’ve seen in recent movies seems to be a desperate attempt to go back to the old days when most girls actually believed in this and “waited” so to speak for this nonexistent guy to come along. Or do every little thing possible by way of their own behavior to make the man in their life to become more of a “Prince Charming.” Hence, this article from Bitch Magazine’s (S)HITLIST<\/a> showing a very disturbing study concerning women and girls who obsessed over fairy tales.<\/p>\n

Are people really surprised by the British study finding that girls enamored of fairy tales are more likely to be submissive adults<\/a>…and, by extension, more likely to experience violence in romantic relationships? The study, by University of Derby masters student Susan Darker-Smith, is titled “The Tales We Tell Our Children: Overconditioning of Girls to Expect Partners to Change,” and poses an interesting causal relationship between a media diet solely consisting of literature and a greater chance of submissiveness in girls…[..]<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

More from the news story<\/a>…<\/p>\n

“They believe if their love is strong enough they can change their partner’s behaviour,” Darker-Smith said. “Girls who have listened to such stories as children tend to become more submissive in their future relationships.”<\/p>\n

The research, conducted in Leicester in the east of England, is to be presented to the International Congress of Cognitive Therapy in Gothenburg, Sweden, next month….[…]<\/p>\n

Darker-Smith said she believed younger generations exposed to television and other entertainment media may react differently and be less submissive than those weaned solely on literature.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Sure, fairy tales can be fun and a temporary ‘high’ in order to escape the realities of life and relationships. But really, should we be subliminally teaching young girls that this is what to expect out of future relationships and to be submissive in a futile attempt to make ‘him’ a “Prince Charming?” I’m not<\/strong> advocating banning fairy tales as they can be a temporary “escape,” but just teach girls the reality of what relationships will be like. As in they’ll be tough and hard work as most relationships are if you want to keep them together. However that shouldn’t require them to be submissive which could be self-destructive and dangerous, should they find themselves in abusive relationships later on in life. And the ‘waiting’ thing is just ridiculous to do, because he might not come at all.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I never really did buy into the whole damsel-in-distress-but-don’t-worry- your-prince-charming-will-come-and-save-you b.s. that goes along with a lot of fairy tales. The idea that all your problems in life will disappear when some handsome fella comes along and sweeps you off … Continue reading →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[31,96],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1517","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-feminism-sexism-etc","category-rape-intimate-violence-related-issues"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1517","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/13"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1517"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1517\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1517"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1517"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1517"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}