{"id":17762,"date":"2013-10-09T15:58:30","date_gmt":"2013-10-09T22:58:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/?p=17762"},"modified":"2013-10-09T15:58:30","modified_gmt":"2013-10-09T22:58:30","slug":"anti-rape-psa-shows-ways-bystanders-can-prevent-rape-and-also-what-if-theyre-both-drunk","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/?p=17762","title":{"rendered":"Anti-Rape PSA Shows Ways Bystanders Can Prevent Rape (and also, &#8220;what if they&#8217;re both drunk?&#8221;)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I really liked this anti-rape PSA from New Zealand. It shows the lead-up to a rape, but then rewinds time and shows several different outcomes in which bystanders of one kind or another (a friend, a bartender, etc) step up in plausible ways and the rape never happens.<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"600\" height=\"338\" src=\"\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/iUj2OHLAG3w\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>Several thoughts:<\/p>\n<p>1) Although the scene shown has a female victim, I do appreciate that the narrator referred to male and female victims.<\/p>\n<p>2) I came across this via <a href=\"http:\/\/www.patheos.com\/blogs\/slacktivist\/2013\/10\/07\/a-gay-golgotha-scene\/\">Slacktivist<\/a>, which also included this <a href=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?feature=player_embedded&#038;v=o3Vca2JLG_o\">very well-done video focusing on bullying<\/a>, but without the aspect of the time rewind and showing plausible ways bystanders could have changed the outcome. I missed that; the bullying video left me feeling rather sad and hopeless, while the &#8220;time rewind&#8221; video left me feeling as if there are actually ways to help that would matter.<\/p>\n<p>3) For me, the scene depicted in the time-rewind video shows why the frequently-asked &#8220;if two people have sex while both are drunk, are they both rapists&#8221; question misses the point. In this video both the man and the woman have been drinking heavily, but there&#8217;s different kinds of drunk; he is engaged and goal-driven, while she is too drunk to do much but be led and respond to direct questions. If one person is so drunk that he or she is unable to meaningfully consent or understand what&#8217;s going on, as the woman in this video is, then what happens is rape &#8211; even if the other person is drunk. <\/p>\n<p>If BOTH of them are so drunk that neither one of them is able to take the lead or make an active decision to have sex &#8211; in other words, if both of them were in the state of the woman in the video &#8211; then no sex is going to happen. They&#8217;ll pretty much just find someplace to sit down and that will be it until someone sobers up.<\/p>\n<p>If one of them is, despite being legally drunk, sober enough to do what the man in this video does &#8211; take the lead, guide the encounter, and make sure that sex happens &#8211; then yes, that person has committed rape. (It doesn&#8217;t matter what sex the person is.)<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if both people understand what&#8217;s happening, and enthusiastically consent to the sex, then it&#8217;s not rape at all. Even if both of them are drunk.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I really liked this anti-rape PSA from New Zealand. It shows the lead-up to a rape, but then rewinds time and shows several different outcomes in which bystanders of one kind or another (a friend, a bartender, etc) step up &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/?p=17762\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[96],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17762","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-rape-intimate-violence-related-issues"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17762","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=17762"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17762\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":17763,"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17762\/revisions\/17763"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=17762"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=17762"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=17762"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}