{"id":19197,"date":"2014-10-15T04:02:55","date_gmt":"2014-10-15T11:02:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/?p=19197"},"modified":"2014-10-15T04:15:06","modified_gmt":"2014-10-15T11:15:06","slug":"on-being-better-liked-after-losing-weight","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/?p=19197","title":{"rendered":"On being better-liked after losing weight"},"content":{"rendered":"

An “Ask Polly” reader describes <\/a>a conversation with her friend who lost 125 pounds dieting…<\/p>\n

He then went into lawyer mode, showing me Facebook posts from his heavy days and now; the same clever Facebook status that had gotten 30 likes when he was overweight got over 100 now that he was thin. He then became upset, near tears even, and told me that the saddest part of losing weight was that people finally complimented him on qualities he’d always had. <\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Another reader, in Polly’s comments, echos the sentiment:<\/p>\n

This one hit close to home – I lost a lot of weight in my 20s and it is a total and complete mindf*&k. Everyone starts paying attention to you, valuing you, and it’s really difficult to navigate without becoming incredibly shallow and choosing the wrong people because you have no idea who YOU really are anymore. <\/p><\/blockquote>\n

When I think about losing weight – and like nearly all fat people, my mind sometimes strays there even though I’m against trying to lose weight myself – this thought always bothers me. I’ve read enough studies <\/a>– and seen enough life – to be convinced that I would probably be better liked, and treated better – not by my close friends, but by acquaintances and strangers and business associates – if I lost a lot of weight. <\/p>\n

But I think that would in turn make me paranoid. How could I make new friends, for instance, if at the back of my head I’m wondering if they’ll drop me if I regain the weight (as most weight losers do)? Would I take every instance of nice treatment as an opportunity to think “if you saw me two years ago, you wouldn’t be being this nice?” It’s a creepy thought.<\/p>\n

(Via<\/a>.)<\/p>\n

[Comment moderation note: Weight-loss advice will be deleted.]<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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