{"id":4192,"date":"2008-02-25T00:42:59","date_gmt":"2008-02-25T08:02:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.amptoons.com\/blog\/archives\/2008\/02\/25\/fragile-masculinity-and-murder\/"},"modified":"2008-02-25T00:42:59","modified_gmt":"2008-02-25T08:02:47","slug":"fragile-masculinity-and-murder","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/amptoons.com\/blog\/?p=4192","title":{"rendered":"Fragile Masculinity and Murder"},"content":{"rendered":"

From a post I wrote<\/a> several years ago:<\/p>\n

From early boyhood, men are taught that their masculinity must be protected above all else, or else it will be lost. Men who have lost their masculinity are objects of contempt, derision and violent abuse, and have lost the right to be loved or respected by their fellow men and by their fathers.<\/p>\n

Boys are also taught that masculinity is fragile and high-maintenance; you work to get it and to retain it, and the slightest slip can cause it to be altogether lost. You can slip instantly, with no transition, from the most popular boy in the room to the butt of everyone\u2019s jokes: all it takes is a moment\u2019s lapse in which you say or do anything that can be interpreted as feminine.<\/p>\n

This is essential: Masculinity is fragile. The man who has lost his masculinity is, in the eyes of male culture, less than nothing, worse than dead. Therefore, force in defense of masculinity – like beating up a boy who accuses you of being a faggot – can feel to boys and men like self-defense.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I was reminded of that post while reading a news story about Brandon McInerney <\/a>, a 14 year old boy who murdered his openly gay and gender-anticonformist classmate Larry King:<\/p>\n

In the days before the shooting, Brandon was hanging out around Silver Strand with his friends, doing what they always did: sitting on the jetty, hanging around the taco stand.<\/p>\n

Brandon’s friend Lauren said the rumors about Larry “hitting on” Brandon were heating up. Kids were joking that Brandon must be gay if Larry was acting that way toward him. […]<\/p>\n

Brandon joined the Young Marines \u2014 the Marine Corps’ equivalent of a JROTC program \u2014 several years ago and became a leader in the group, which disbanded last summer. […] His hours in a martial arts studio helped trim his physique into a lean, muscular one.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I’m not saying this alone drove McInerney to murder — it’s almost certainly significant that McInerney’s family life was disfunctional and one or both of his parents were abusers. And it’s possible that McInerney is just essentially a bad person in some way. Nonetheless, I doubt this murder would have happened if McInerney’s friends hadn’t been teasing McInerney by calling his masculinity into question, making McInerney feel that he had to do anything — anything at all — to defend his masculine image. (His hobbies — Young Marines and martial arts — imply that masculinity is important to McInerney.)<\/p>\n

From Holly at Feministe<\/a>:<\/p>\n

Seriously, when you think about this kind of situation in all its disturbing dimensions and possibilities, which is more likely? That one of the school bullies decides to take it a step beyond name-calling and shoving, pulls out a gun, and shoots this kid? Or that the killer felt personally threatened for some reason, to the point of bringing a gun into a middle school classroom and shooting someone in the head, first thing in the morning? With the few details that have emerged, it\u2019s impossible to say.<\/p>\n

But I fear the worst \u2014 and the worst would not just be that some homophobic asshole killed a child. There\u2019s an even worse worst: that a child is dead, and the other child who pulled the trigger did so because he couldn\u2019t deal with his own feelings. And now that second child will be tried as an adult, and another life destroyed.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

From the NY Times story<\/a>:<\/p>\n

The gunman, identified by the police as Brandon McInerney, \u201cis just as much a victim as Lawrence,\u201d said Masen Davis, executive director of the Transgender Law Center. \u201cHe\u2019s a victim of homophobia and hate.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

McInerney is being charged as an adult and, if convicted, faces a minimum of 53 years in prison (25 for the murder, 25 for the gun, 3 for the hate crime). The Transgender Law Center is opposing <\/a>trying McInerney as an adult.<\/p>\n

I agree with the TLC. Nonetheless, typing this entry, I kept on having to correct my wording to refer to King in the past tense, and McInerney in the present tense. I feel terrible about McInerney being tried as an adult, and I agree with Masen Davis that McInerney is a victim (although “just as much a victim as Lawrence” is going too far for me). But still.. it’s so fucking unfair that King is the one of them having to be in the past tense.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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