Category Archives: Gender and the Body

Fragments of Evolving Manhood: Do You Like Your Body 4 (More on the Expendability of the Foreskin)

When a good friend of mine who is not Jewish found out that her first child was going to be a boy, I asked her if she intended to have him circumcised. “Yup,” she answered, smiling. “Do you know how … Continue reading

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Fragments of Evolving Manhood: Do You Like Your Body 3 (Preliminary Notes On the Expendability of the Foreskin)

In 1834, Sylvester Graham—inventor of the cracker that continues to bear his name—published a book called A Lecture to Young Men, in which he warned that masturbation would transform a boy who practiced it regularly into: a wretched transgressor [who] … Continue reading

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Fragments of Evolving Manhood: Do You Like Your Body? – 2

At eleven, I am the youngest of eight boys lined up along one row of lockers in the otherwise empty men’s room at the swimming pool to which the day camp we are attending takes us every other day. Normally, … Continue reading

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Fragments of Evolving Manhood: Do You Like Your Body? Two Stories from my Teens and Early Twenties

What first attracted me to Maria was the way she had no reservations about saying she didn’t like Walt Whitman’s poetry, even though our freshman-year professor in Introduction to American Literature had made Whitman’s work central to the course. When … Continue reading

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Fragments from Evolving Manhood: A Full-Throated Protest Against Existence and the World

I have written before about the book of personal essays dealing with manhood, masculinity and male sexuality that I tried, unsuccessfully (even with the help of an agent) to get published in the 1980s. Evolving Manhood was the working title, … Continue reading

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Reader, I Married Her

Tony Judt, a well-known historian, has written an engaging essay called “Girls! Girls! Girls!” for NYRBlog, The New York Review of Books blog, about how our stance towards sexual behavior on (and, by implication, off) campus has changed over the … Continue reading

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Please workplace tell me how I should eat

The Victoria University staff club is strange in many ways. It is tucked away in the library, undergrads aren’t supposed to go there, and know very little about it. But, despite the secrecy, it is very unexciting – except the … Continue reading

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It's not OK

I’m not really interested in writing much about American politics. Partly because if I’m going to do day-to-day political stuff there’s so much to write about in New Zealand.* But mostly because I find it even more alienating than I … Continue reading

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A New Covenant

Because we have discussed male infant circumcision on this blog before, a poem in progress: They say it’s a shame we didn’t do it when we should have, that probably you’ll need it later in life, when it’s more complicated, … Continue reading

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I Know I've Had Orgasms That Changed Me

A friend of mine who does not like jazz–especially anything that has a saxophone in it–told me once about a conversation she and her ex-husband, a serious jazz-lover, had over dinner with a couple, the male half of which also … Continue reading

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