Category Archives: Rape, intimate violence, & related issues

What We’re Not Talking About When We Talk About Guns and Rape

[This is a guest post by freelance writer and recovering attorney Dani Alexis. Dani blogs and is rampant on Twitter.] Zerlina Maxwell made some fantastic points on Fox News and in her Ebony columns about how telling women how not … Continue reading

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Photographer Documents An Incident Of Intimate Violence

(Trigger warning, for both this post, and for the links it contains.) Photographer Sara Naomi Lewkowicz didn’t intend to be taking photos of Shane violently assaulting his girlfriend Maggie, but that’s how things turned out. This Time photo-essay is disturbing … Continue reading

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A Teaching Experience That Changed My Life

I was cleaning out some files in my office at school the other day, when I found a copy of the introduction I gave in the spring of 2001 for two women who were doing an independent study with me … Continue reading

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Why, After Jerry Sandusky and the Boy Scouts, is No One Asking “Why Boys?”

Author’s note: I have changed the title of the post so that the sex abuse scandal in the Catholic Church is not included. Even though the majority of victims in that scandal were, as far as I know, boys, girls … Continue reading

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“A man walks into a bar…”

[This is a guest post by Nicole Louise Melleby.] “A man walks into a bar…” Every joke can be a setup for a rape joke. When rape victims turn on their TVs, they face a strong possibility of being confronted … Continue reading

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Street Harassment, in 1906 and Now

Jack at Ethics Alarms quotes Emily Moss’ A Letter To The Guy Who Harassed Me Outside The Bar (which I linked to last week). Jack comments: The amazing thing is that this kind of ritual harassment would vanish with some … Continue reading

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The Good Men Project: How Not to Have a Conversation about What It Means to Be a Good Man – Part 1

First, a full disclosure. The Good Men Project (TGMP) has published three pieces of my writing. I will be discussing that fact in more detail in the second part of this series, but for those who don’t know my work, … Continue reading

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Intervention

About a year and a half ago, as I walked home after work at about 11 PM, I passed a couple talking about thirty feet from the entrance to my building. The woman was leaning with her back against the … Continue reading

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The Good Men Project Publishes “For My Son, A Kind of Prayer”

I am really happy that The Good Men Project has chosen to publish a new of poem of mine called “For My Son, A Kind of Prayer.” Too often, I think sites like that ignore the potential for poetry to … Continue reading

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Jezebel Continues Its Long, Slow Decline

You know what’s super-funny? Rape! What’s that? You say rape isn’t funny? It’s a horrible act of violence, one of the worst crimes a human can commit? Well, what if I told you a girl raped a guy? Have you busted a gut yet? No? … Continue reading

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