At Feministing: More. Duke. Crap. Samhita opposes the decision by the women’s Duke lacrosse team to wear bracelets that say innocent in a game against Northwestern.
The team members could have avoided having their decision attacked if they’d chosen a different slogan such as Justice for All. Isn’t that what we are all supposed to want? It doesn’t bash anybody and doesn’t label any innocent person as a liar.
In the comments Hujo wrote: Stop scapegoating on the patriarch trip and just take control of your own life!
Keeping control of our own lives is what those opposed to rape and gender violence are working towards. But following Hujo’s order would make rape victims feel they are the only one’s responsible for their rape.
Been there, done that. Eventually realized that it was my rapist who refused to take personal responsibility and who used me as a scapegoat for his actions.
Ain’t it funny how those who insist the loudest that others must take personal responsibility are usually trying to dodge responsibility for their actions or their words or their failure to act?
The same people who keep saying “real” rape is horrific seem puzzled that anyone would be angry toward those who rape and those who say the rights of accused rapists should trump the rights of alleged rape victims. They refuse to understand why any sensible person would be angry when alleged rape victims are vilified while alleged rapists are placed on a pedestal?
As for why shows of solidarity in support of accused rapists is problematic, see my earlier post:
Peer pressure led rape victim to drop charges, Tecumseh police say
The intent may be to see that there is justice for all, but the reality is that these shows of solidarity perpetuate environments that are hostile to rape victims and which lead to victims refusing to cooperate with law enforcement. Then if those rape victims are raped again, they are called proven liars by the same type of people who treated them horribly the first time.
Also posted on my blog, http://abyss2hope.blogspot.com