Last summer, when the California Supreme Court ruled same-sex marriage bans unconstitutional, I found it impossible to get excited. I didn’t know why. It just seemed too good to be true, so deep down I didn’t think it actually was true. Same-sex couples around me started getting married and I tried to be happy for them, but I never quite believed it.
And, well, now I know why. Because it was too good to be true.
Last night, I watched one of our organizers start crying as he realized we were going to lose. I didn’t know what I could possibly say to console him. The stakes were infinitely higher for him than for the homophobes cheering in Orange County. I think of all the other married couples my husband and I worked with on this campaign, and it breaks my heart.
That’s really all I can say at this point. My heart is broken.
(Cross-posted on Modern Mitzvot)
Yeah, it doesn’t really affect the people who are against gay marriage at all, but it really affects the gay people who want to get married. It’s massively uneven in the consequences. It makes me think that having a popular vote on this is not really an appropriate way of addressing the issue.