A response to “The Fat Whisperer”

coswhateverforever asked: •Obese people arent healthy •You can still love yourself at any size •There is no health at any size and it can cause many problems.. How can you love your body when youre slowly killing it? •Its ok to have some extra weight •I was once bigger but im at a good weight and im glad my body is in better conditions (could barely exercise, high cholesterol, sluggish) •Insulting and anti fat acceptance arent the same •Stop making excuses when your health knows the truth

I don’t know for sure, but I assume this ask comes in response to my cartoon “The Fat Whisperer.”

1) Obese people are not a single entity. Some obese people are currently healthy, some are currently dealing with illness or health problems. (Ditto for thin people). Either is fine. I’d rather be healthy than not, but being unhealthy is not a character flaw or a moral failing.

That said, I’d argue that the stress and lack of self-care that comes with self-hatred is a huge health problem among fat people. Attitudes like yours – which, regardless of intentions, are part of what causes fat people to learn to hate ourselves – are making us less healthy.

2) Agreed.

3) Of course there are healthy fat people, by any measure of health other than “are they fat?” That some people are fat and healthy is very well documented. (Also, I’m not “slowly killing” my body by being fat.)

4) Agreed. To which I’d add, it’s also okay to have a lot of extra weight. Or to be underweight. Or to be so-called “normal” weight. There is no one weight which is the right weight for all people.

5) I’m glad you’re feeling better.

6) Sure they are. For example, your comments here – such as “how can you love your body when you’re slowly killing it?” – are condescending and insulting.

7) “Stop making excuses when your health knows the truth” – wow, if I could rewrite my cartoon now, I would DEFINITELY have the “Fat Whisperer” character say that line – it’s perfect. So thanks for reassuring me that my cartoon was on target.

And also:

Even if you’re right that being fat is unhealthy – I don’t agree, but put that aside for a moment – so what? The vast, vast majority of fat and obese people will never be able to stop being fat or obese. So you’re like someone walking up to a seven-foot-tall person and saying “you’d be healthier if you weren’t so tall.” That’s not helpful advice.

In fact, telling fat people that they MUST! BE! THIN! and if they’re not thin then they’re just “making excuses” just makes fat people less healthy. Stress makes us less healthy. Being taught that we’re weak and flawed and that our bodies are ugly and not worthy of love, makes us less healthy. So if you actually care about fat people’s health, my recommendation to you is that you stop telling us your opinions about our health.

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Open Thread And Link Farm, Hurty Gurty Edition

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  1. Most thieves make almost no money and are teens going through a phase. Also, for those under 24, being poor doesn’t make being a thief more likely.
  2. Sword-wielding woman uses medieval combat skills to stop intruder
  3. Against Against Autism Cures | Slate Star Codex
  4. Read 2015 Nobel Economics Prize winner Angus Deaton’s take on inequality – Vox. “Why income inequality in society as a whole is a threat to democracy — and why worrying about it isn’t just class warfare or resentment.”
  5. A 58-Year-Old Black Man Reflects on the Death Around Him: Conflicted thoughts about how to stop crime, advance equality and save lives. I don’t agree with everything in this article – in fact, I think there’s a lot here that the more conservative readers of “Alas” will agree with – but it’s certainly tremendously interesting.
  6. The Debate Link: Two Types of Microaggressions and a Comment on Epistemic Injustice
  7. A vine of 17 hours of my friend Matt Bogart drawing comics in like 30 seconds. My favorite thing about this is that his girlfriend did a little cat animation by projecting pictures onto the wall behind Matt. You can read the comic Matt drew here.
  8. Who gets to be on grand juries? Current and former cops: Yes. Former ACLU staffers: Apparently not. – The Washington Post
  9. Boys can now wear skirts to school in Puerto Rico · PinkNews
  10. Noahpinion: Interesting Debate Regarding Racial Bias in Police Killings The argument is, both whites and blacks get shot for being threatening to police, but blacks are more likely to be shot for being insubordinate.
  11. Fox & Friends freaks out over black Captain America: It’s a plot to ‘target conservatives’
  12. Hispanic Coalition, MoveOn.org Petition Call for Trump’s Removal as SNL Host | Mediaite Eh. Obviously people have a free-speech right to object to SNL’s choice of hosts. But I think they’re wrong. Like it or not, Trump is an entertaining public figure who is important to current headlines (although I don’t expect he’ll have any lasting relevance), which makes him exactly the sort of politician SNL invites. And the impulse to try and keep opposing public figures from having access to mass media, while understandable, is wrong.
  13. UCLA Administration Considering Censoring Theme Parties, Punishes Frat For “Kanye Western” Theme Party.
  14. Bad Reporting on Matthew Keys’ Possible Sentence Conceals Prosecutorial Power
  15. Bernie Sanders Thinks Women Should Stay Home With Their Babies | Ravishly
  16. The Dispiriting Democratic Debate | The American Conservative
  17. The Legal Murder Of Tamir Rice – The Atlantic “Convicting an officer of murder effectively requires an act of telepathy.”
  18. How secure is health reform? | The Incidental Economist
  19. Sentencing Law and Policy: “The Reverse Mass Incarceration Act”
  20. Beepy Boopy Veronica — “this is the world where Brendan Eich has to quit his job, instead of me getting blackmailed cuz I like to wear skirts.”
  21. In China, credit score is now affected by friends’ activism
  22. What the wonky case for Obamacare’s Cadillac Tax misses – Vox
  23. Here’s Why “Arming the Opposition” Usually Doesn’t Work | Mother Jones
  24. CDC Study: The Myth of Poor Families and Fast Food
  25. Hasbro Spent Time, Money, Lawyers’ Attention To Barely Make A Difference Over My Little Pony Fan Game | Techdirt
  26. PETA monkey selfie lawsuit: It’s not just absurd. It’s cruel.
  27. Big Win For Free Speech (especially “fair use”) In Google Books Lawsuit – Postcards from Space
  28. I argue with someone on Tumblr about the ethics of reposting art without the artist’s permission.
  29. Similarly, I argue with someone on Tumblr about Sarkeesian’s statement at the UN.

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New Cartoon: The Fat Whisperer

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Read the whole cartoon over at Everyday Feminism.

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A Publication Announcement & An Upcoming Event

I have some very exciting news! Ghostbird Press has agreed to publish For My Son, A Kind of Prayer, a chapbook of poems about being a father and raising a son. If all goes well, the book should be out in April 2016. The title of the book is a play on William Butler Yeats’ “A Prayer for My Son,” in which the poet asks for divine protection against those “who have planned [the boy’s] murder.” I am not concerned that anyone is planning to kill my son, but he is growing up in a culture, as the level of gun violence in this country seems to show, that is deeply in love with the ability to bring death to others and that values this ability as part of what it means to be a man. The book’s title poem, an earlier version of which you can read here, takes on what it means to raise a son in a culture that is if not precisely in love with rape, then certainly having a hard time not being in love with it. As a whole, For My Son, A Kind of Prayer represents what it has meant for me to be a bulwark of sorts against those values.

“For My Son, A Kind of Prayer,” the poem, will also appear in Veils, Halos, and Shackles: International Poetry on the Oppression and Empowerment of Women, an anthology conceived in response to the brutal gang rape and murder in December 2012 of Jyoti Singh Panday. This volume, which will also be published in April 2016, by Kasva Press, was edited by Charles Fishman and Smita Sahay and includes contributors from all over the world, including Afghanistan, Australia, Brazil, Canada, Ireland, India, Israel, Mexico, New Zealand, Nigeria, Norway, Sweden, the US, and the UK. The editors have set up a Facebook page, where you can find out more.

I will be reading some of the poems from For My Son, A Kind of Prayer at the Queens Poets & Parents Reading, which will take place on Sunday, October 25th, from 3:00–4:30 PM at QED Astoria. Tickets are $5 and can be purchased at the door or on the QED website. (There’s also a Facebook page). This will be an interesting event, featuring five Queens-based poets–me, Wendy Angulo, Jared Harel, Paolo Javier and Sarah Kain Gutowski. We’ll each read from our work and then have a discuss amongst ourselves and with the audience about how raising children has helped to shape our creative lives. It would be lovely to see you there.

(Cross-posted on my blog.)

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Recommendation Roundup 10/12/15

Hello, internet world.

On my social media, I’m posting links to things I’ve written, things other people have written, and artists to support. I wanted to gather those links in one place, so each Monday I will put up a post with the previous week’s links and recommendations.

I might start working through my backlog weeks later, but for now, moving ahead…

A Story of Mine

Eros, Philia, Agape,” published on Tor.com, my first short listed piece for the Locus Award, World Fantasy Award, Hugo Award and Sturgeon Award.

It was partially inspired by something Octavia Butler said to our class when I was at Clarion West: That the echoes of slavery continue to affect the ways Americans express love.

A Poem of Mine

Dear Melody,” which originally appeared in Sybil’s Garage and is now online at The Examining Room, is what happened when I first learned about chimerism. Science is so weird and cool. (Scroll down to see it.)

An Awesome Story

“In the House of the Seven Librarians” by Ellen Klages, originally in FIREBIRDS edited by Sharyn November, reprinted online in Uncanny Magazine (text) and in PodCastle (audio).

I don’t usually love stories about books and librarians. They can feel too easily like pandering to an audience that loves to read. However, the whimsy and beauty of this piece, and Ellen’s consummate ability as a writer, made me melt.

I was privileged to buy this story as a reprint for PodCastle, and to narrate it. (Audio link above.)

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Open Thread And Link Farm: Escher Pushed Me Down The Stairs Edition

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  1. Skin Feeling, by Sofia Samatar, is an exquisite essay about how being a “diverse” faculty member at a mostly white institution makes one both very visible and no longer visible as an individual; and Charlie Parker; and various acts of public nudity. Sit down in a comfy chair with a cup of coffee and read it.
  2. Sofia Samatar is also a fantasy and sf writer.
  3. 50 Years After the Moynihan Report, Examining the Black Family in the Age of Mass Incarceration – The Atlantic This long article by Ta-Nehisi Coates is REALLY worth reading.
  4. The Police Told Her To Report Her Rape, Then Arrested Her For Lying – BuzzFeed News
  5. “Oh so I can’t say ANYTHING anymore”
  6. This Is So Gay: When Death Threats Are Outlawed, Only Outlaws Will Make Death Threats Duncan comments on a thread here at “Alas.”
  7. Hillary Clinton and the Dangers of Political Ruthlessness – The Atlantic Conor F. makes the case against voting for Clinton in the primaries.
  8. How to Stop Mass Shootings – Why Mass Shootings Keep Happening Contains some very interesting first-person musings from someone who almost committed a mass shooting.
  9. Toxic masculinity is tearing us apart: Christopher Harper-Mercer, 4chan and the fragility of America’s alpha male – Salon.com
  10. The case against equality of opportunity – Vox
  11. Enough is Enough: Dark Horse’s Scott Allie’s Assaulting Behavior | Graphic Policy
  12. Revisiting The Effect Of Teachers’ Unions On Student Test Scores | Shanker Institute
  13. Ant Man and the Problem of Marvel’s Necessary Women | Feminist Fiction
  14. Want More Teachers? Pay More | Al Jazeera America
  15. The Comic Pusher: The Unexpected Delights of Wine and Comics in Etienne Davodeau’s The Initiates. I recently read The Initiates, a graphic novel about a winemaker teaching a cartoonist about his craft, and vice-versa, and I really enjoyed it.
  16. Study: White people react to evidence of white privilege by claiming greater personal hardships
  17. Beauty and the feast: Examining the effect of beauty on earnings using restaurant tipping data. More attractive waitresses get tipped more by women, but not men; and to a lesser degree, more attractive waiters get tipped more by men, but not women. I have no idea what that means.
  18. Speeding in Finland Can Cost a Fortune, if You Already Have One. This seems like a very sensible idea – speeding tickets, rather than being a flat rate, are proportionate to income. The article talks about one millionaire whose speeding ticket was enough money to buy a Mercedes.
  19. Wonder Woman Lunch Box Banned From School for being “too violent”
  20. The official poverty measure is garbage. The census has found a better way. – Vox
  21. My Temple, My Mountain | Popular Science A well-done short comic about science and colonialism and building a telescope on the tallest mountain on Earth. ((As measured from the sea floor.)) Thanks to Harlequin for the link.
  22. Wired magazine’s Absurb Creature Of The Week archive is a great way to make a lot of time when you should be working, pleasurably disappear.
  23. Why police could seize a college student’s life savings without charging him for a crime – Vox The answer, of course, is civil forfeiture laws (and, unsurprisingly, the student is Black). The extent to which this completely indefensible program seems invulnerable makes me despair; many (most?) Americans seem content to live in a police state, as long as they aren’t among the likely targets. (See also, no-knock raids.)
  24. Republicans Who Voted Against Sandy Aid Now Demand Help for South Carolina Flooding Victims. I still hope that they get their emergency relief, but man, what assholes.
  25. Today in the Systemic Persecution of Sex Offenders – Lawyers, Guns & Money : Lawyers, Guns & Money
  26. How to play Strip Iterated Prisoner’s Dilemma – Exploring the Interesting
  27. The remarkable thing that happens to poor kids when you give their parents a little money – The Washington Post
  28. Locked Out Of The Sixth Amendment By Proprietary Forensic Software | Techdirt
  29. Holy Bullies and Headless Monsters: Fox News caught pushing another false story about the transgender community, bathrooms
  30. The Republican Party stands alone in climate denial
  31. What people in 1900 thought the year 2000 would look like – The Washington Post
  32. Planned Parenthood’s “Government Funding”: The Same Kind Your Doctor Receives
  33. Those folks who were kids in the early 1970s – do you remember a kid’s TV show called Candle Cove?

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When Is It Fair To Blame GOP Voters For Carson and Trump?

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A question for everyone here, but I’m especially interested in what conservatives (or even conservatives relative to the “Alas” norm) think:

At what point, assuming they continue to be the leading candidates, ((Recent polls show that only Trump and Carson are standing out in poll after poll, although certainly Rubio, Fiorina, and Bush are contenders. Unless there’s a major shake-up in the race – and maybe there will be, it’s still early! – everyone else seems like an also-ran at best)) is it fair to take Donald Trump’s and Ben Carson’s expressed views, as a general snapshot of what Republican base voters favor?

I haven’t bothered writing about what either Trump or Carson say, because I’ve been assuming that they’re flash-in-the-pan candidates, oddball artifacts of the nomination process rather than an actual expression of what the GOP in general favors. Or maybe just GOP base voters having a bit of fun before settling for someone bland and plausibly electable.

But that’s how I felt months ago. Trump started rising in June. It’s been a while.

But probably he’ll still fizzle out to nothing in the end. Right?

But if Trump fails to fizzle out, at what point does it become fair to take Trump and Carson as representing what a large portion of GOP voters want?

(And for the reverse question: I think it’s now fair to take Clinton’s policies in general as a reasonable snapshot of what centrist Democratic base voters want, and Sander’s policies in general as a reasonable snapshot of what progressive Democrats want.)

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Cat Rambo and I teaching a class on Nov 8

Interested in writing retellings? Cat Rambo and I are teaching a class together: retellings and re-taleings.

Authors constantly draw on the stories that have preceded them, particularly folklore, mythology, and fables. What are the best methods for approaching such material and what are the possible pitfall? How does one achieve originality when working with such familiar stories? Lecture, in-class exercise, and discussion will build your proficiency when working with such stories.

Cat Rambo has been a friend of mine since 2005 when she and I, along with many other fabulous people, went to Clarion West together. She’s a Nebula nominated author  with an established short story career whose first novel just came out. She’s also the current president of SFWA.

The class is at 9:30 am pacific time on November 8, taught online. It’s $99, 10% off for former students.

(Check out Cat’s other classes, too!)

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After Suing To Gut The Voting Rights Act, Alabama Makes It Harder For Black Counties To Vote. Who Could Have Predicted That?

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After passing a law requiring ID to vote, ((“…the NAACP Legal Defense Fund determined in September that at least 282 ballots in the state’s June 3 primary election were not counted because of this new law. Additionally, about 40 percent of those discarded ballots came from counties with majority African American populations, while election officials in two Alabama counties with overwhelmingly white populations illegally waived the photo ID requirement for absentee voters.” From “Voter Suppression Efforts in Five States and Their Effect on the 2014 Midterm Elections” – PDF link.)) Alabama has closed a bunch of driver’s license offices – and the offices it shut down will especially impact black voters. AL.com’s John Archibald sums it up:

Take a look at the 10 Alabama counties with the highest percentage of non-white registered voters. That’s Macon, Greene, Sumter, Lowndes, Bullock, Perry, Wilcox, Dallas, Hale, and Montgomery, according to the Alabama Secretary of State’s office. Alabama, thanks to its budgetary insanity and inanity, just opted to close driver license bureaus in eight of them. All but Dallas and Montgomery will be closed.

Closed. In a state in which driver licenses or special photo IDs are a requirement for voting. […]

Every single county in which blacks make up more than 75 percent of registered voters will see their driver license office closed. Every one. […]

Look at the 10 [counties] that voted most solidly for Obama? Of those, eight – again all but Dallas and the state capital of Montgomery – had their offices closed.

This was entirely predictable – and almost certainly would not have been allowed before the Supreme Court’s Shelby decision. As I wrote in an earlier post:

After the Supreme Court eviscerated the Voting Rights Act in June’s Shelby v. Holder decision, Republican-controlled legislatures rushed to enact whatever voter ID laws they already had written.

In time, new and more extreme laws will inevitably be written to take advantage of the freedom Shelby has given states to reduce voting rights. And the conservatives on the Supreme Court may further reduce voting rights in future decisions. The worse damages of current voter ID laws are not the worst we’ll see.

Naturally, conservatives are saying that just because Alabama’s actions look, smell, flap and quack like a duck doesn’t mean it’s a duck. Jack at Ethics Alarms mocks the idea that Republicans in Alabama would deliberately make it harder for Black folks to vote:

“Make IDs essential to vote, then make it harder for blacks to get drivers licenses! What an ingenious plan! BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Nobody’s going to see through that!

In the real world, sometimes outlandish plots do happen, especially when people are highly motivated. And evidence shows that voter ID laws are most likely to be proposed following an increase in minority turnout.

Is it conscious plotting, or just unconscious bias? ((I don’t think it’s a coincidence. Even if the legislators came up with their plan by throwing darts at a board, if the darts had “just happened” to make things harder for white conservative voters, then they would have found another way. White supremacy isn’t just a matter of laws deliberately enacted; it’s also a matter of which slights the government moves to correct, or never allows to occur in the first place, versus which ones they let be.)) I don’t know, or care, because the hidden motivations of white legislators aren’t the important thing. That kind of thinking – that it’s excusable when laws put up barriers making it harder for minorities to vote, as long as we can’t prove that white legislators had conscious evil intentions – is white-centric. Where reason asks “does this make voting racist and unfair in practice,” white-centric thinking asks “were the hearts of the white people pure?”

Jack goes on:

Guess what? Alabama had thought about the ID problem, and was prepared to deal with it, or think they are. Alabama Secretary of State John Merrill announced, a day after the shift hit the fan,

“All 67 counties in Alabama have a Board of Registrars that issue photo voter I.D. cards. If, for some reason, those citizens are not able to make it to the Board of Registrars, we’ll bring our mobile I.D. van and crew to that county. By Oct. 31, our office will have brought the mobile I.D. van to every county in Alabama at least once.”

This reminded me of a passage from Douglas Adams’ Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy, in which Arthur Dent, surprised to find out that his house is scheduled to be demolished by the local government, talks to a bureaucrat:

Mr Prosser: But, Mr Dent, the plans have been available in the local planning office for the last nine months.

Arthur: Oh yes, well as soon as I heard I went straight round to see them, yesterday afternoon. You hadn’t exactly gone out of your way to call attention to them had you? I mean like actually telling anybody or anything.

Mr Prosser: But the plans were on display…

Arthur: On display? I eventually had to go down to the cellar to find them.

Mr Prosser: That’s the display department.

Arthur: With a torch.

Mr Prosser: The lights had probably gone out.

Arthur: So had the stairs.

Mr Prosser: But look, you found the notice, didn’t you?

Arthur: Yes yes I did. It was on display at the bottom of a locked filing cabinet stuck in a disused lavatory with a sign on the door saying beware of the leopard.

Nothing prevented Arthur Dent from reading the plans, right? He could have gone to the local office to read them. Heck, maybe they even had a van.

In Jack’s comments, SamePenn points out that Alabama’s Republicans conveniently left themselves no time to educate voters on where they can now register to vote:

The official announcement closing the DMVs was made on September 30th. Is that 34 days to register for November 3rd elections? Well, no. It’s only 22 days until … I really don’t want to shout anymore; it hurts my fingers, so just pretend everything is either in uppercase, bold, underscored or has an exclamation mark … voter registration is closed. It happens that the deadline for voter registration in Alabama is 11 (eleven) days before the election: Saturday, Oct. 24. And the rules say that registration has to be complete before the deadline.

Alabama Republicans don’t need to absolutely prevent Black voters from voting. They just need to make registering to vote harder – board of registrars, disused lavatory, same thing – and then release the information in a way that makes it unlikely voters will hear about it.

So while voters in most mostly-white counties go to their local DMV to get their drivers licenses renewed, voters in many mostly-black counties need to know that they can get a voter ID card from the Board of Registrars ((Imani Gandy points out that just knowing about and getting to the Board of Registrars are not the only barriers.)) – and then they need be able to get there during the limited hours they’re open. ((And, of course, they still have to travel sometimes ridiculous distances if they want an actual driver’s license.))

Or happen to hear about, and be available, for the four hours of one day that the mobile ID van will happen to be parked somewhere in their county.

So how good is that mobile ID van? “As of last Monday, only 29 IDs were issued from the mobile units this year and four from the state capitol, according to the secretary of state’s office.”

Yeah, that’s a reasonable substitute.

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There Is No Such Thing As “The” Correct Definition of Racism

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For years, I’ve been seeing the argument over the definition of racism – as in, “there is no such thing as reverse racism, by definition only White people can be racist, because racism is prejudice plus power, here look what this sociologist says” versus “the dictionary says ‘poor treatment of or violence against people because of their race,’ it doesn’t say anything about only White people being racist” over and over and over and over.

Whichever definition you prefer, the other definition is not “wrong.” Words mean what people use them to mean, and can have multiple meanings. If fluent English speakers have for years been using the word “racism” to mean X, then that is one correct meaning of racism. If another group of fluent speakers has for years used it to mean “Y,” then that is another correct meaning. If a specialized group – like sociologists – use “racism” as a term of art meaning “Z,” then that is yet another correct meaning. That’s just how English works.

I prefer one definition over another, but I recognize that both definitions exist in modern English and are used by English speakers.

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