Two YouTube Videos Recommended for Progressives

This cartoon talks about the perils of even trying to tell stories about the work that people do, at great risk to themselves, to help women achieve reproductive justice. Via silk_noir.

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And this one — which is much more uplifting, and which I have now watched three times — is a video of a number of GLBTQQI (and allies?) teenagers lipsynching to Lily Allen’s “Fuck You Very Much” as a response to prop h8 being upheld. I particularly enjoy the use of phallic popsicles to create imagery that can be used as a weapon against bigots. Via ktsparrow.

UPDATE: Watching this second video a fourth and fifth times, it really grinds home to me how much the people in this video are the kind of people I consider “my people.” It’s beyond me how anyone can look at such joyful profusion, so much color and joy in the way they dress and act and exist, and see something threatening or disgusting.

Yet I know they do. When I was a teenager, my presentation — though abnormal for teenagers — was never enough to unsettle adults. In fact, I probably dressed in a more adult-friendly way than most teens. Long skirts, pseudo-professional clothes, often bizarrely formal for a high school student. But my friends didn’t.

There was one girl I spent a lot of time with. A pixie-like joy of a person, Dawna, who wore her blonde hair almost totally shaved, and strung chains on her jeans. People who saw her knew there was something unusual about her. They didn’t take joy in her oddness, in her willingness to sing in the middle of the street, in her humor, in her desire to leave strange and beautiful things in public places for strangers to find and puzzle over. They shouted “dyke!” at her from car windows; they deployed store guards to follow her around; they sneered and snarled.

When I was 17 and Dawna was 15, she went out with me and started acting very strange. “Is she on meth or something?” a friend of mine asked. I said, “I’m sure she isn’t” — but I was wrong. She was on meth. She called me that night, crying. She’d been taking a lot of drugs for a long time — to try to deal with the pain of her isolation, the pain of how people pricked and pained her, and othered her, and told her she was nothing.

I told her I’d help. I arranged for her to be transferred to my high school and set her up with the teachers who’d been best for me. Nothing worked; the teachers who were more than happy to deal with my casual attitude toward authority had no tools in their kits to handle a girl who was too depressed to go to class. I’d thought they would recognize in her, as they had in me, independence and intelligence. I suppose they did. But even if they wanted to, there was nothing they could do.

I always worried Dawna would die. I thought she would overdose or commit suicide. When I read a few years ago that she was dead, and the obituary hinted at a cause of death that couldn’t be announced to potentially scandalized ears, I knew I was right.

She was twenty-two.

Dawna lived twenty-two years in the toxic hatred of our homophobic, gender policing, joy-killing world. And then it murdered her.

When people stand with bigots to say that gay marriage is an evil to society — when they agree gay people should be excluded on the basis of their sexuality — when they doubt gay people’s goodness or morality — they contribute to the deaths of people like Dawna. Yes, I do mean you, individual Alas commenter who may be a good person in other ways. You participate in a culture that kills people like my friend, and “fuck you very much” doesn’t even begin to cover it.

I hope that someday people will realize what they’re doing when they vote and act hatred. In the meantime, I can only be glad that there are still colorful, inspiring, joyous, unique people in the world, and try to give those people my love and support.

Posted in Abortion & reproductive rights, Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Trans and Queer issues, Same-Sex Marriage | 16 Comments

Silence is the Enemy

Marine biologist Sheril Kirshenbaum is, along with Chris Mooney, a co-blogger at The Intersection, a blog on science and public policy whose RSS feed should be in your reader, and if it isn’t, you should go, right now, and rectify the situation.

Done? Good. Now let’s talk about the epidemic of rape facing young women around the world.

Sorry to shift gears without depressing the clutch, but I do so for a reason: to draw attention to an effort launched by Kirshenbaum to attack a problem that is horrifying in its scope:

Today begins a very important initiative called Silence Is The Enemy to help a generation of young women half a world away.Why?  Because they are our sisters and children–the victims of sexual abuse who don’t have the means to ask for help.  We have power in our words and influence. Along with our audience, we’re able to speak for them.  I’m asking all of you–bloggers, writers, teachers, and concerned citizens–to use whatever platform you have to call for an end to the rapeand abuse of women and girls in Liberia and around the world.

In regions where fighting has formally ended, rape continues to be used as a weapon. As Nicholas Kristofrecently wrote from West Africa, ‘it has been easier to get men to relinquish their guns than their sense of sexual entitlement.’ The war has shattered norms, training some men to think that ‘when they want sex, they need simply to overpower a girl.’ An International Rescue Committee survey suggests 12 percent of girls aged 17 and under acknowledged having been sexually abused in some way over the previous 18 months.  Further, of the 275 new sexual violence cases treated Jan-April by Doctors Without Borders, 28 percent involve children aged 4 or younger, and 33 percent involve children aged 5 through 12. That’s 61% age 12 or under.  We read about their plight and see the figures, but it’s so easy to feel helpless to act in isolation. But these are not statistics, they are girls.  Together we can do more.  Mass rape persists because of inertia so let’s create momentum.

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Silence Is The Enemy was born–so named because we will not be. All through June, I’ll continue posting information, details, benchmarks, and let everyone know about progress made, new initiatives, and stories from the region. I encourage others to do so as possible.  The IntersectionOn Becoming A Laboratory And Domestic GoddessAetiologyBioephemeraNeurotopiaThe Questionable AuthorityDrugMonkey, andAdventure In Ethics And Science will be donating all revenue this month to Doctors Without Borders. The goal is two-fold:  Raising funds and–arguably more importantly–awareness. Since blogging revenue increases with traffic, we hope to get people to keep coming back for more information about what’s going on and thinking about how to make a difference. Do not feel obligated to donate, but it’s one idea. There are many ways to contribute:  Write and email Members of Congress (Congressional Directory here), speak at community meetings, encourage others to get involved, or donate to our chosen charity (Doctors Without Borders). Help us maximize our donations by visiting IsisJessicaTaraNeurotopiaMikeDrugMonkeyJanet and returning here often because every click will help raise money. Spread the word.  We want to make sure elected officials at multiple levels realize this is a global issue that matters to a large voting constituency!

I will be donating to Médecins Sans Frontières this month, and I encourage others to do the same. But whether you can donate money, or simply can donate your effort spreading the word that rape is not acceptable, and that you support efforts to end it, your efforts matter. It is incumbent on all of us to say that we will not be silent in the face of these attacks, and that the safety and well-being of the women and girls of Africa matters every bit as much as the safety of Americans.

Posted in Africa, International issues, Rape, intimate violence, & related issues | 11 Comments

Frickin' Sweet

Because there must be room in the world for fun, here’s a random timewastin’ web site: Apocryphacts. With the tag line of “Trivia so good you’ll wish it was true,” how can it go wrong? A sample:

The film Love Actually, though it claims to portray love in all its myriad manifestations, is actually missing several common situations, such as “Zeus seduces a mortal woman through trickery and transmogrification” and “man publicly declares love for delicious bagel sandwich in crowded deli.”

Or:

When historians reflect upon President Obama’s first State of the Union address, there will be mixed feelings about his decision to film in Digital 3-D. There will be consensus, however, that prepending a trailer for Monsters Vs. Aliens 2: B.O.B. Bounces Back was an excellent choice.

Or:

Just hours after Tusk-Haver etched the first deliberate painting into the walls of Cave-By-Long-Water, Bear-Smeller became the the first man to cut funding to the arts. After a successful appeal to Chief Biggest-Rock (with a stick), Tusk-Haver’s tusk was taken by force (a two-pronged stick) and converted into a spear. Bear-Smeller would go on to lead several unsuccessful raids against Bear-That-May-Exist, only to fall victim to the previously unknown Ground-Sloth-That-Definitely-Does-Exist-And-Has-Sharper-Claws-Than-Expected.

Or:

The spread of the Internet in the last decade has enabled the proliferation of Münchausen Syndrome by Proxy, allowing people to to induce illness in others from around the globe through the use of dedicated proxy servers.

Actually, that last one may be true.

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Not Funny

I really have never understood the concept of the “hate fuck;” it’s way too close to rape in spirit, and…blech. I don’t judge what goes on in someone’s head, and as long as these thoughts stay in your head, fine, but still…yuck.

But going to the next level and actually writing an article naming conservative women you’d like to “hate fuck” is a whole ‘nother level of vile, and actually paying someone for that article is awful, even if you’re Playboy. I mean, I dislike Michele Bachmann as much as the next sentient being, but throwing out sexual fantasies about her while opining that she makes “chemical castration…look appealing” is odious beyond odious.

And it goes without saying that nobody’s written a hate-fuck list naming, say, Rick Santorum.

This is seven kinds of despicable, and it is a reminder that there are plenty of fauxgressives running around who somehow think one can be a good liberal and still hate women. One can’t. By all means, attack the politics of Malkin, Coulter, Ingraham and Bachmann. But do so by attacking their politics, not by asserting that their vaginas make them an inviting target for defiling.

Oh, and by the way, Hot Air, while I appreciate that you’ve discovered misogyny, you guys might want to also police yourselves. Arguing that liberal women aren’t hot is not the way to prove you’re sensitive to women.

Posted in Feminism, sexism, etc, Media criticism | 5 Comments

Kid Blogging: Trying on flowergirl dresses

Unrelated quote: “Killing animals for meat is kind of goth…goth for kids.” –Sydney Quinn, age 5

Both Sydney and Maddox love dresses and sparkly things and all things princess-y. Photos by Bean.

And Sydney is below the cut…. Click on the photos to see a bigger version. Continue reading

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Link Farm and Open Thread Number Six

You are not a number! You are a free person! So post whatever links or thoughts you like. And if you’d like to self-promote, go wild.

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Same-sex marraige will inevitably lead to sex with ducks, and that’s an outcome Garfunkel and Oates are willing, even eager, to accept. (Via Pandagon.)

  1. Excellent series of posts arguing that, despite the setbacks, pursuing equal marriage rights (aka gay marriage, aka same-sex marriage) through the courts as well as through other means has been an extremely successful strategy.
  2. I didn’t know what homophobia was until I left the reserve.”
  3. Interesting article about Unitarian Universalism in Africa, which isn’t the same as UU in the West. (Via.)
  4. If you are an education reformer who believes teacher quality is the single biggest factor affecting student achievement, here is compelling evidence that you should also actively support existing desegregation programs.”
  5. How far to the right has the Supreme Court gone? Very, very far.
  6. Sotomayer is no bleeding heart jurist, alas.
  7. Slavery 101: Clearing up misconceptions about African slavery
  8. I like the anecdote in the second half of this post.
  9. Language Log examines the study which Ross Douthat cites to imply that feminism has made women miserable: “the effect under discussion is a shift of a few percentage points, mostly accomplished by shifting the opinions of around 5 women in a hundred from ‘very happy’ to ‘pretty happy’.” (Via.)
  10. Well-done post discusses how anti-fat bigotry is different, without devolving into oppression Olympics.
  11. Poor people pay more for daily necessities of life than rich people.
  12. It turns out that laws protecting labor don’t lead to increased unemployment.
  13. If you’re a member of Threadless, please vote for this design by my friend Jenn, so I can buy it.
  14. So which sex is “the sex class,” men or women? An argument over terminology that actually has some interesting stuff underlying it.
  15. Thank goodness the Israeli Supreme Court is there. (Seriously.) More here.
  16. Obama hasn’t remembered a single promise he’s made to LGBT Americans (and he made eight). We should remember that.
  17. The Pervocracy discusses the clothed female/naked male sexual fetish. (Via.)
  18. If I was a coin collector, I’d really want one of the godless dollars.
  19. This article on health care costs in The New Yorker examines why some places in the US (such as the Mayo clinic) provide excellent, relatively inexpensive health care. Where is the extra money going in areas of the US which spend much more money for care that’s not any better? He argues that the difference, frankly, comes down to how much the system in any town encourages doctors to make as much money as they possibly can.
  20. Texas mayor resigns and leaves the country, because homophobic US immigration & marriage laws don’t recognize his Mexican partner.
  21. American voters are less white every election.
  22. How to be Mike Lester, political cartoonist: 1) Find something that someone dislikes. 2) Compare it to abortion. 3) Repeat, repeat, repeat…
  23. An argument in favor of Palestinians embracing nonviolent struggle against Israeli oppression.
  24. Sixth grader censored for doing a school presentation about Harvey Milk.
  25. On what is “normal” and what is “fetish.”
  26. World’s most interesting bridges. Great photos!
  27. I lovelovelove So You Think You Can Dance. But this homophobic garbage has got to go.
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Sunday Night Python

Because there’s really only one way to respond to horror.

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George Tiller, 1941-2009

George Tiller was shot and killed today. Shot while he ushered a service at the church he attends.

It’s fitting, because for decades, he had done the Lord’s work.http://www.amptoons.com/blog/

George Tiller was the medical director at Women’s Health Care Services Clinic in Wichita, Kansas. The clinic provided reproductive health care, including abortion services into the third trimester. It was this that made Tiller a marked man; the fact that he had the temerity to provide legal medical services for women drove the anti-abortion movement crazy. He was shot in 1993, but stubbornly refused to give in to terrorism. He simply went on, providing medical care for women in difficult situations, walking boldly through the throng of detractors and haters, people who would rather women died on the table from complications of pregnancy than receive care from a medical professional.

Today, a killer ended Tiller’s life, and sent a signal to all providers of abortion services that they are not safe either. It is classic terrorism, the use of violence to achieve a political aim. The despicable Randall Terry of Operation Rescue chose to take the occasion of Tiller’s death to note that the doctor was a “mass-murderer,” adding, “I am more concerned that the Obama Administration will use Tiller’s killing to intimidate pro-lifers into surrendering our most effective rhetoric and actions. Abortion is still murder. And we still must call abortion by its proper name; [sic] murder.”

Tiller was not a mass-murderer, no matter what the Randall Terrys of the world may claim. He was a doctor, one who helped women through a difficult procedure. He sacrificed his life today because he was unwilling to step aside, to let women’s rights die at the threat of violence. May all of us who believe in a woman’s right to choose honor Dr. Tiller with the same steadfast resolve; terrorism works only when we surrender to fear. And the terrorist who committed this act (and the anti-choice cheerleaders who encouraged and endore it) must not be allowed victory.

Posted in Abortion & reproductive rights | 20 Comments

Ordinary Heroes

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Heard about this through the Carl Brandon mailing list:

While the facts surrounding the kidnapping and rescue of the Maersk Alabama Captain Richard Phillips have been widely reported, less well-known is that ship which saved him was commanded by a black woman, Rear Admiral Michelle Howard.

Howard received the assignment of leading the U.S. Navy’s counter-piracy task force just three days before the Maersk Alabama was attacked by Somalia pirates.

“It’s probably one of the most exciting missions the Navy has been on in for a long while,” Howard told the Navy Times.

Did you know the Maersk captain was rescued by a black woman? I didn’t either.

On the one hand, I’m almost glad this wasn’t publicized; I could almost believe this means Howard wasn’t regarded as special or unusual by the media covering the Maersk incident. That’s what we want, after all — not to be depicted as a race of thugs and hoochiemamas that occasionally spawns a Morgan Freeman-like Messiah figure that will save all us from tsunamis terrorists the recession. We are ordinary people, with the same range of characters and behaviors as anybody else — good and bad. But I highly doubt Howard was overlooked by the mainstream media because she was “too ordinary”. I think Captain Phillips fit the image in the producers’/reporters’/editors’ heads of what heroism should look like: white, male, one brave man surrounded by black savages. And I think Admiral Howard defied that image, being black and female and in charge of a diverse team of competent people, so they discarded her. I think we still exist as nothing more than a collection of stereotypes and inaccurate assumptions in the eyes of most Americans — unfortunately including ourselves. We’re not ordinary enough to have ordinary heroes, not yet. Not according to them.

But fortunately, there is the blogosphere.

So. Admiral Howard’s a hero. Pass it on.

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A truly amusing article at the Onion

My friends, I would like to take these last few moments of stubborn close-mindedness to say that it’s been an honor to dig myself into this hole with you.s

The only quibble I have is that it isn’t three minutes of incoherent shouting that drives off the reasonable. It’s years worth.

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