Category Archives: Rape, intimate violence, & related issues

Red Pills and Ants

Recent events at a blog that rhymes with Shmetal-Moptimized reminded me of the existence of sociobiology and of people who imagine that human beings – and ants and bonobos and every other species — are driven primarily by biological imperatives, … Continue reading

Posted in Anti-feminists and their pals, Conservative zaniness, right-wingers, etc., Economics and the like, Feminism, sexism, etc, Fiction, Gender and the Body, Homophobic zaniness/more LGBTQ issues, literature, Men and masculinity, Popular (and unpopular) culture, Rape, intimate violence, & related issues, Sex | 14 Comments

The Politics of Being a Man Who Survived Childhood Sexual Violence

As I said in the blog post I wrote about the artist’s grant I received this year from the Queens Council on the Arts, I plan to use the blogging I do, as well as my newsletter (click to sign … Continue reading

Posted in Men and masculinity, Rape, intimate violence, & related issues | 4 Comments

Here’s to a New Beginning and a Renewed Purpose

As I have hinted at in some of the posts I’ve written over the past couple of years, my professional life has been difficult, not because of anything having to do with my job per se, but because the college … Continue reading

Posted in Feminism, sexism, etc, Men and masculinity, Rape, intimate violence, & related issues, Writing | 6 Comments

High School Rapist Orchestrates A Bullying Campaign That Forces Three Victims To Leave The School

In this horrifying, maddening story, a seemingly popular high schooler in Oklahoma raped 3 classmates, and was suspended for distributing a video he made of one of the rapes. From outside of school, he orchestrated his friends in a bullying … Continue reading

Posted in Rape, intimate violence, & related issues | 28 Comments

Why “Affirmative Consent” Laws Are Needed

[Warning: This post contains descriptions of, and discussion of, rape.] In comments, a new comment-writer named “Ben” presented “three very strong objections to the California affirmative consent law.” Before I respond to Ben in a future post, I want to … Continue reading

Posted in Rape, intimate violence, & related issues | 290 Comments

Violent Rape Threats Are An Infringement On Free Speech

Bellechere, a professional costumer and popular cosplayer, has posted that she won’t be attending New York Comic Con, despite having a pass. A man who didn’t like me saying that I cosplay for myself, not for other people, threatened extreme … Continue reading

Posted in Cartooning & comics, Feminism, sexism, etc, Free speech, censorship, copyright law, etc., Rape, intimate violence, & related issues | 24 Comments

Cartoon: Affirmative Consent Explained

TRANSCRIPT OF CARTOON The cartoon shows two young men chatting. The man on the left is Asian and punky – he has his hair shaved into a mohawk, a nose ring and an earlobe plug, and tattoos. The man on … Continue reading

Posted in Cartooning & comics, Rape, intimate violence, & related issues | 56 Comments

What Do You Do When Your Student Tells You Her Father Threatened Her Life? 2

In my last post, I told you about a former student who came to my office distraught because her father had threatened her life. It’s now more than two weeks since I walked her over to the counseling center on … Continue reading

Posted in Feminism, sexism, etc, Iran, Rape, intimate violence, & related issues | 76 Comments

What do you do when your student tells you her father threatened her life?

Well, if you’re a K–12 teacher and you believe the student is at all credible (or maybe her credibility doesn’t matter), you have very specific reporting requirements, and there are protocols for that reporting that you have to follow, and … Continue reading

Posted in Iran, Rape, intimate violence, & related issues, Writing | 1 Comment

Why I doubt that “63 percent of young men between the ages of 11 and 20 who are imprisoned for homicide have killed their mothers’ batterers.”

I’m posting this here on “Alas” so that, two or three years from now, when I run into this statistic again and think “oh, yeah, I wrote a thing on that, didn’t I?” I can search for here it and … Continue reading

Posted in Prisons and Justice and Police, Rape, intimate violence, & related issues | 12 Comments