My wife pointed me to an excellent, if infuriating, blog last night, and I was up until 2 AM reading through it.
Microaggressions is a blog about the little daily fuck-yous that populate the world if your race, gender, ethnicity, economic class, nationality, language, ability level, body type, or religion doesn’t meet with the approval of the majority. It’s just a series of tiny, painful stories. They neither have nor require context.
Me:: I can’t believe that someone could commit such a horrible crime. People can scare me sometimes. Guy:: You know, if black people don’t want to be called criminals… Me:: I didn’t say anything about what the man looked like. Guy:: [Silence]
As you can probably imagine, there are too many of these to count, and reading through the whole thing can leave you feeling rather ragged.
Some of them are very specific, and nearly unbelievable in their casual cruelty,
During track practice, we were doing push ups on the track and afterwards the hands of the boy next to me were stained red from the rubber. He turned to me, wiped his hands on his face and said in a fake accent, “Hello, my name is Sanjai, how can I help you with your computer today?” I’m partially South Asian.
While others are so commonplace that you just might encounter it from time to time on this very blog:
“Now let me just play Devil’s Advocate…”
Every guy who feels entitled to insert himself into a conversation about sexism in order to say something ignorant and sexist.
What they have in common is that to a one, they cause some pain. They cut, just a little. But there are thousands of them. They keep coming.
Because that’s what it’s like.
Whether reading it leaves you feeling a little ragged or not, this is a blog worth checking out. Especially if you’re a straight white guy.
Please do not comment unless you accept the basic dignity, equality, and inherent worth of all people.