Pie in the Face: Violence, Protest or Revenge?

Feeling for a fur-favoring fashion editor PETA pied in the puss, LAmom lamented:

Is this harmless protesting? … I don’t think so. I have no problem with people denouncing and even embarrassing those whom they consider to be wrongdoers. But pieing is a use of force, an act of violence.

PETA’s politics aside (like most folks, I have a lot of problems with anything PETA-associated), I don’t think LAmom really answered her own question. Where’s the harm? Since LAmom defines an incident in which, apparently, no physical harm was done as “violence,” then she can’t logically establish that harm was done merely by saying it was “an act of violence.”

I enjoy pie-protests. Not because I believe that pies are an effective method of creating change, but because I resent the people who have the gall, the conceit, the pomposity, the arrogance to rule over the rest of us, whether it’s a corporate journalist, a corporate CEO, or a politician. A pie in the face, far more than other forms of protest, seems aimed at that arrogance.

In fact, I don’t think pieing is an act of protest at all. Pie in the face is terrorism (one pie-throwing group calls itself “Al Pieda”) crossed with decency – revenge conducted by people too civilized to use bombs.

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SSM Opponent Predicts End of Western Civilization Due To Sexual Disorganization

Maggie Gallagher, one of the leading intellectuals of the anti-SSM movement, has done a truly remarkable crash and burn while guest-blogging on the prominent right-wing blog The Volokh Conspiracy. (Here’s a link to all her Volokh posts).

I should mention that Maggie and I have had a couple of polite exchanges, and although I disagree with her about virtually everything but the color of the sky I think she’s eloquent and smart. So I was genuinely surprised at how poorly she defended her views, given a conservative (albeit libertarian-leaning) forum and seemingly unlimited space. Kieran at Crooked Timber describes what happened:

Maggie Gallagher’s guest appearance at the Volokh Conspiracy has taken a rapid turn for the worse. She keeps putting up scattershot posts that resolutely fail to engage with any of the reasonable questions and criticisms an increasingly exasperated group of commenters have repeatedly offered her. It irritates the commenters no end that she begins posts with phrases like “Let me clarify” and then doesn’t clear anything up.

The primary “reasonable question” Maggie won’t (or can’t) address coherently is this: How, specifically, will civil recognition of same-sex marriage alter heterosexual couple’s decisions to marry and/or divorce? (This is, of course, a question that no SSM opponent has ever answered with anything but hand-waving.)

The low point, I think, is when – stretching to demonstrate an actual harm to heterosexuals caused by SSM – Maggie suggests that same sex marriage will destroy Western Civilization within two centuries:

When anthropologists in the thirties went out into the vanishing world of human diversity, the reason they found marriage everywhere is that societies that do not hang onto the marriage idea do not survive very long.

But marriage in a particular society is not inevitable; death by sexual disorganization is always an option. Happens quite a bit actually. cf. Roman empire.

So in one sense I’m not worried about marriage. In spite of the progressive mythology that the drive to gay marriage is the irresistible wave of the future, I’m quite confident that 200 years from now, we’re not going to be living in a world where gay marriage is the norm.

I’m just not sure of the place of Western civilization in that future world.

Henry at Crooked Timber comments: “‘Explaining’ the collapse of Rome seems to be one of those historical Rorschach tests in which quack amateur sociologists stare into the inkblots and see their own prejudices and crackpottery staring back out at them.”

For those who don’t want to wade through the 16,000 often painfully embarrassing words Maggie has written on Volokh so far, Orin Kerr provides a Cliff Notes version:

The argument is that extending marriage to include same-sex couples would not just give rights to a small subset of the population, but would radically transform what marriage is. So long as only opposite-sex couples can marry, the thinking goes, marriage is linked to procreation; if same-sex couples can marry, too, then marriage is transformed into something else entirely. Adding same-sex marriage would ruin the old institution and create a new one, and the new institution would not longer retain a focus on having and raising children. Viewed in that light, same sex marriage is a threat to society: by redefining the institution, it will kill off its most important feature.

Maggie agrees that Orin’s summary is “basically” accurate (although I think Orin ought to have written “procreating” rather than “having and raising children,” since Maggie’s argument de-emphasizes the raising of children).

That’s it – that’s the very best case the anti-SSM folks have. No wonder the Volokh commenters are pissed.

Maggie’s argument, taken in it’s best light, can’t support anything except the idea that SSM will lead to a slight marginal acceleration in the trends she’s worried about (and even that is giving Maggie’s case more credit than it merits). And – to paraphrase Volokh commenter Kate:

Staving off a slight accelerating effect isn’t worth denying a class of citizens the dignity of having equal rights.

It’s worth scanning the comments following Maggie’s posts – some of Volokh’s comment-writers provide smart rebuttals to Maggie’s arguments. Also, watch Volokh next week, when SSM-advocate Dale Carpenter will guest blog. Call me a crazy pop-eyed optimist, but I bet that Carpenter will be able to make a coherent case for his views – and do so without predicting Western Civ’s downfall.

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Seven Posts About Abortion, Prenatal Testing and Down Syndrome

Post 1: Trite criticisms of a Washington Post essay.

Alas reader “Lee” sent me a link to this Washington Post piece by Patricia Bauer. Here’s a few choice bits, but you may want to read the whole thing.

Whenever I am out with Margaret, I’m conscious that she represents a group whose ranks are shrinking because of the wide availability of prenatal testing and abortion. I don’t know how many pregnancies are terminated because of prenatal diagnoses of Down syndrome, but some studies estimate 80 to 90 percent.

Imagine. As Margaret bounces through life, especially out here in the land of the perfect body, I see the way people look at her: curious, surprised, sometimes wary, occasionally disapproving or alarmed. I know that most women of childbearing age that we may encounter have judged her and her cohort, and have found their lives to be not worth living. […]

What I don’t understand is how we as a society can tacitly write off a whole group of people as having no value. I’d like to think that it’s time to put that particular piece of baggage on the table and talk about it, but I’m not optimistic. People want what they want: a perfect baby, a perfect life. To which I say: Good luck. Or maybe, dream on.

And here’s one more piece of un-discussable baggage: This question is a small but nonetheless significant part of what’s driving the abortion discussion in this country. I have to think that there are many pro-choicers who, while paying obeisance to the rights of people with disabilities, want at the same time to preserve their right to ensure that no one with disabilities will be born into their own families. The abortion debate is not just about a woman’s right to choose whether to have a baby; it’s also about a woman’s right to choose which baby she wants to have.

There’s a lot to unpack in this article:

1) Bauer is, I think, correct to believe the lives of people with Down Syndrome are worth as much as other lives. Objectively, having Down doesn’t make life less rich or worthwhile, nor does it make loving and being loved less rewarding.

2) Bauer’s essay is marred by her habit of attributing unflattering beliefs to large groups of people, based on dubious reasoning. For example, she writes “I know that most women of childbearing age that we may encounter have judged her and her cohort, and have found their lives to be not worth living.” Huh? Even among the tiny minority of women of childbearing age who aborted a fetus with Down Syndrome, it’s unfair to assume that they consider people with Down Syndrome to be leading lives not worth living; there are obvious other reasons they might have chosen an abortion (for instance, not believing that they personally had the ability or the resources to care for a child with Down Syndrome).

(Baggage Carousel 4 has further discussion of this point – including dubious speculation about Bauer’s motives. Holy Irony, Batman!)

3) Whatever Washington Post editor edited this sentence:

I don’t know how many pregnancies are terminated because of prenatal diagnoses of Down syndrome, but some studies estimate 80 to 90 percent.

should be sentenced to several months of editing Judith Butler’s essays for readability. It’s impossible that 80 to 90 percent of pregnancies are aborted because of Down syndrome, which only occurs in 1 in every 800-1000 pregnancies. Presumably, the author means that 80 to 90 percent of fetuses with Down Syndrome are aborted.

Post 2: Responses to Pro-Life Responses to Bauer

That’s enough about the essay itself. What about the ideas it brings up? Well, first of all there’s the pro-life response. Let’s get that out of the way.

1) Predictably, many pro-life bloggers have been linking to this piece, some comparing the abortion of disabled fetuses to the Holocaust or genocide. It seems to me that this argument begs the question, when applied to the abortion debate. Deliberately killing thousands of people with Down Syndrome would be genocide, beyond any doubt. But calling the abortion of Down Syndrome fetuses “genocide” assumes that fetuses are people. Whether or not fetuses are people is one of the primary questions pro-choicers and pro-lifers disagree on; you can’t just assume it’s true and then accuse pro-choicers of genocide.

Even pro-life responses that aren’t extreme enough to compare pro-choicers to Nazis tend to make this same basic logical error of assuming what’s at issue.

2) Also on the abortion question, even if we agree that abortion in order to prevent Down syndrome is wrong, and even if we agree that government intervention is called for (two very big ifs), that still doesn’t lead to banning abortion. It would be less extreme to simply ban testing for Down syndrome.

3) If there were a prenatal test for potential obesity, I have no doubt – none whatsoever – that the large majority of expectant mothers in the U.S. would take the test, and would abort any fetus which was likely to become obese. People like me would virtually cease to exist. I’ve been thinking about this hypothetical all day, and although I believe it’s true – given the choice, most mothers would abort a fetus if they knew it would someday look like me – that doesn’t alter my views on whether abortion or prenatal testing should be legal. If the options are limiting women’s reproductive rights or limiting the births of people like me, the latter is the lesser evil.

4) Speaking only for myself, if I were a pregnant woman, told that my fetus had Down syndrome, I believe I’d choose to abort. People with Down syndrome are significantly more likely to die young (Down syndrome is associated with severe heart conditions). My cousin died at age sixteen, in a car accident. My cousin was wonderful and her life well-worth living and all her family and friends are blessed because we were lucky enough to know her; but it would have been better still, immeasurably, had she lived decades longer.

Worldview Warrior disagrees with my approach.

That is reality… you want a perfect baby? Sorry to break it to you, it won’t happen. This desire for perfection is a fundamental longer for the way things ought to be but the means by which we try to obtain perfection in our fallenness is flawed.

I agree that life comes sans guarantee. Some born with terrible heart conditions defy doctor’s expectations by living to 90; some in perfect health die young in stupid car accidents. But even though I can’t control what happens, what’s wrong with trying to improve the odds?

Post 3: Separating the Issues of Down Syndrome and Abortion

Is the reduction in Down syndrome births an issue that involves abortion at all? Put another way, if we took abortion out of the equation, would so many people be appalled at a massive reduction of Down syndrome births?

Imagine it is discovered that dumping folic acid into the water supply cuts Down syndrome births by 80%. Some areas begin putting folic acid into the water (similar to the way some areas have reduced cavities by putting fluoride in drinking water). Hypothetically, let’s assume that this has no side effects.

How many people would object to an 80% reduction in Down syndrome births, if it didn’t involve abortion? From this pro-choicers perspective, there’s no logical distinction between a reduction in Down syndrome births due to a “cure” and a reduction due to voluntary selective abortion. So if someone is appalled by the latter, but okay with the former, that suggests that they’re not really against Down syndrome being wiped out; they’re just anti-abortion.

Post 4: Is Preventing Down Syndrome Ethical?

Future Imperative asks “If aborting an embryo, no matter how crippled, appalls you, how would you feel if you had the technology to cure that unborn child completely?”

Suppose that in the future, scientists discover that trisomy 21 – the condition that leads to Down syndrome – is indirectly caused by a virus which effects one in every 1000 or so births. A program of inoculation wipes out the virus, and Down syndrome in the following generations no one is born with Down syndrome, ever.

Is this genocide? Or a boon to humanity?

I don’t know.

The argument that attempting to prevent disability, is the same as saying disabled people are worthless and should be wiped out, compels but does not persuade me. When I say I’d like to wipe out poverty in my lifetime, that’s not saying that I’ve judged poor people’s lives and found them “not worth living.” If I invent a car seat which better protects spines, so fewer are crippled in accidents, that doesn’t mean I’ve judged the lives of people in wheelchairs not worth living.

Everyone faces limits – but a person with Down syndrome, or a person in a wheelchair, faces limits most of us never experience. If fewer people face those limits, how is that terrible?

On the other hand, that argument ignores the very real prejudice against the disabled. What if the energy put into “curing” disability was instead put into fighting against anti-disabled bigotry? The Useless Tree argues that instead of seeking to ban abortion, we should instead solve the problem of selective abortion of disabled fetuses by increasing understanding (hat tip: 11D):

…We should think of ways to allow people, and especially prospective parents, to see the beauty of children with disabilities. And the first way to do that is to put more resources and attention into supporting families with disabled children.

If securing needed therapies and programs for disabled children in schools was less of a struggle and more of a welcoming and constructive process, then some of the stigma of disability might disappear. If there were more healthy and happy group-living accommodations for adults with disabilities, adults whose parents have passed away, then new parents with disable children would worry less about what the future might hold. If there were as much emphasis in our culture on common humanity as there was on individual productivity (I am, you will remember, against productivity), then there would be less questioning the value or worth of disabled people.

I agree with all that. It is impossible that disability will ever be completely eliminated; even if Down syndrome is wiped out, people will still be born with other disabilities, or become disabled after birth. Since disability can never be “cured,” it logically follows that a genuinely accessible, non-bigoted society is a better and more comprehensive solution to the “problem” of disability.

But doesn’t putting it that way assume that we face an either-or question? The truth is, “both/and” is the most realistic path. We can assume that efforts to reduce disability are good, and still believe that disabled lives are as rich, fulfilling, and worthwhile as the lives of (temporarily) ablebodied people.

But wait a moment – that makes no sense. If “disabled lives are just as rich, fulfilling, and worthwhile,” then isn’t it an enormous waste of money and effort to attempt to prevent or cure disability?

And round and round I go.

Post 5: Is It a Disability to Have a Disability?

The truth is, I think disabilities disable people. Is that bigoted of me?

Some people find that painting, comics, and beautiful sights immeasurably enrich their lives; some people aren’t all that touched by that stuff. But no blind person gets the chance to find out if they feel rapture when reading a great comic book.

I realize that many blind people lead full lives, and that there’s as much pleasure to be found in the other four senses as there is in sight. I certainly don’t think a blind person’s life is not worth living. But the world is better when everyone has as many options as possible, and blind people are cut off from many options that they might (or might not) have enjoyed. Nonblind, their choices are broadened.

But then again… everyone faces constraints on their options – it’s part of the human condition. And everyone (well, everyone who doesn’t face direly constraining injustice) faces more options than they’ll ever pursue. If I had been born blind, I wouldn’t love comics; but I would have pursued other interests. Life is short, and possibilities are infinite.

Post 6: Diversity vs. Medicine

Secondhand Smoke, discussing the WaPo essay, writes:

Meanwhile, our futurists sigh in ecstasy at the thought “seizing control of human evolution” and making “better” babies enhanced for increased intelligence, beauty, or longevity. Yet, developmentally disabled people are some of the most “human” people I have ever met, most merely wanting to belong, contribute, love, and be loved. Somehow that point is lost on the Brave New Worlders, as is the very concept of unconditional love for children regardless of “characteristics.”

We are told by “transhumanists” and others that the future will be an individualist’s paradise, with all of us able to remake ourselves and our children into whatever form of life we choose. But the reverse seems true. As we claim to believe in diversity, in many ways we are actually well down the path to destroying it.

Isn’t a more diverse society richer? In this sense, isn’t a society with less blind people, less Down syndrome people, less fat people, etc., simply less interesting and worthwhile?

I’ve always admired Deaf culture – its beautiful and efficient language, its arts, its ability to survive in a larger and too-often hostile culture. But Deaf culture is shrinking as medical science advances, both because fewer and fewer deaf children are born and because incurable deafness is becoming rarer. I can’t say that I think medical advances are bad; nonetheless, I think the utter loss of Deaf culture would be tragic.

If fatness were safely, easily curable, how many fat people – even fat activists – would take the cure? I suspect nearly all of us would. Would a society in which no one was fat be worse?

Post 7: Sort of a Conclusion

In my heart, I can’t get past my belief that we’d be better off with less disability. Disability will never be wiped out, but as science advances it will be reduced, and I believe that’s good.

But logically, I realize that human happiness isn’t based on being able to walk, or see, or learn quickly.

* It is an empirical fact that some disabled people, including many with Down syndrome, lead happy lives; it is also true that some nondisabled people are miserable all their lives.

* Multiple studies have shown that ablebodied people who are basically happy before becoming disabled in an accident, remain basically happy people after the shock of being disabled passes.

So perhaps my heart is wrong.

I don’t think efforts to cure or prevent disability should be stopped, because some disabled people would prefer to be non-disabled. But at the same time, I think it’s more important to reform society, and the way we view disability, ability and the pursuit of happiness. That, in the end, has more potential to improve human lives and bring happiness than medicine does.

Maybe.

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An arrest warrant for….

….Mr. Tom DeLay. Today a Texas court issued an arrest warrant for DeLay, where he’ll go through the usual booking, mug-shot, fingerprinting, etc. Providing that he surrenders himself to the authorities. I wonder who in the blogosphere will get a hold of DeLay’s mug-shot photos first (it won’t be me, because my laptop is horrible when it comes to downloading photos).

AUSTIN, Texas (AP) — A Texas court issued a warrant Wednesday for former House Majority Leader Tom DeLay to appear for booking, where he is likely to face the fingerprinting and photo mug shot he had hoped to avoid.

Bail was initially set at $10,000 as a routine step before his first court appearance on conspiracy and money laundering charges. Travis County court officials said DeLay was ordered to appear at the Fort Bend County jail for booking.

The warrant was “a matter of routine and bond will be posted,” DeLay attorney Dick DeGuerin said.

The lawyer declined to say when DeLay would surrender to authorities but said the lawmaker would make his first court appearance Friday morning.[…]

DeLay had also turned down a deal from the prosecution to plea guilty to a lesser charge in order to save his job. Meanwhile his lawyers and campaign are continuing their assault against the prosecution by distributing information attacking the prosecutor, and going after him (the prosecutor) for misconduct. And DeLay continues to deny any wrongdoing. Poor Hammer. It’s been such a tough past few weeks for him.

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A little questionnaire from 1989

I had already come to the conclusion that Miers would more than likely turn out to be no friend of women’s reproductive rights and privacy a few of weeks ago. Given all the blurbs in the MSM and the blogosphere of her donating to anti-choice groups, and some conservative leaders and pundits coming out and saying they “know” what she believes, and are happy with it. But now after she has turned in a candidate questionnaire (from back in 1989, while she was a candidate for Dallas city council) to the Judiciary Committee, I believe my conclusion and serious concerns over the Miers’ nomination have been re-affirmed. This gives a whole new meaning to the phrase “remember the eighties?” Just one more reason for me to forget them.

WASHINGTON (AP) — Supreme Court nominee Harriet Miers pledged support in 1989 for a constitutional amendment banning abortions except when necessary to save the life of the mother, according to material given to the Senate on Tuesday.

As a candidate for the Dallas city council, Miers also signaled support for the overall agenda of Texans United for Life — agreeing she would support legislation restricting abortions if the Supreme Court ruled that states could ban abortions and would participate in “pro-life rallies and special events.”

Miers made her views known in a candidate questionnaire the White House submitted to the Senate Judiciary Committee, which is expected to hold hearings on her Supreme Court nomination next month. The one-page questionnaire was filled out, but unsigned, although the Bush administration affirmed its authenticity.

“The answers clearly reflect that Harriet Miers is opposed to Roe v. Wade,” said Sen. Dianne Feinstein, a Democrat and only woman on the Judiciary Committee. “This raises very serious concerns about her ability to fairly apply the law without bias in this regard. It will be my intention to question her very carefully about these issues.”[…]

That view was echoed at the White House where presidential spokesman Scott McClellan said that Miers answered the questions as a candidate during the course of a campaign.

“The role of a judge is very different from the role of a candidate or a political officeholder,” McClellan said.

“Harriet Miers, just like Chief Justice (John) Roberts, recognizes that personal views and ideology and religion have no role to play when it comes to making decisions on the bench,” he said. “Your role as a judge is to look at all the facts and look at the law and apply the law to that case.”[…]

And on that little questionnaire, Miers had to answer this interesting yet very disturbing question….

“If Congress passes a Human Life Amendment to the Constitution that would prohibit abortion except when it was necessary to prevent the death of the mother, would you actively support its ratification by the Texas Legislature,” asked an April 1989 questionnaire sent out by the Texans United for Life group.

Miers checked “yes” to that question, and all of the group’s questions, including whether she would oppose the use of public moneys for abortions and whether she would use her influence to keep “pro-abortion” people off city health boards and commissions.

The swing vote

[…]The Texans United for Life questionnaire is additional evidence of how Miers feels about abortion, with some of her supporters assuring conservatives that they believe she would overturn the Supreme Court’s landmark Roe v. Wade ruling.

Miers also bought a $150 ticket to a Texans United for Life dinner in 1989 and took a leadership role in trying to get the American Bar Association to reconsider its abortion-rights position in 1993.

No assurances on Roe

Senators say Miers has insisted that she has not given anyone any assurances that she would overturn Roe v. Wade if given the chance.

“She said nobody knows my views on Roe v. Wade. Nobody can speak for me on Roe v. Wade,” said Sen. Charles Schumer, D-New York, on Monday, referring to the case that guaranteed women’s constitutional right to an abortion, setting a legal precedent that abortion foes have been trying to overturn ever since.

In the questionnaire that she turned in the Judiciary Committee, Miers answered “no” to questions asking whether anyone during the nomination process discussed specific cases or legal issues with her to get an assurance on her positions. She also answered “no” to whether she told anyone how she might rule if confirmed.[…]

This questionnaire may have been filled out back in 1989, but this still raises some issues (and worries) concerning the future of Roe and even Griswold once Miers takes O’Connor’s place–the precious “swing-vote” seat. Here’s a copy of the questionnaire from RedState.Org. Perhaps this was an attempt by the Bush White House to soothe some of the concerns of its anti-choice conservative base and it’s leaders. And yet with things like this coming out about Miers’ past anti-choice activism, some anti-choice conservative-wingnut leaders and pundits are still pissed about her nomination. Weird. But maybe some will now be slap-happy about her nomination, while I and others will continue to worry about the future of the SCOTUS, and reproductive rights and privacy. Sigh…

**Responses from pro-reproductive-rights groups: Here’s NARAL Pro-Choice America’s statement, along with Feminist Majority’s, and Planned Parenthood’s on Miers and the 1989 questionnaire.

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Monday Baby Blogging – Welcome Maddox!

Maddox arrives

On Saturday, Maddox Aziel Baker Schlotte- daughter of “Alas” co-blogger Kim (basement variety!) and Kim’s hubby Matt, and sister of Sydney – arrived with some assistance from a bunch of people wearing masks. I don’t remember exactly what time she was born – I think it may have been 11:45am. Maddox weighed 7 pounds 13 ounces at birth, and is 20 inches tall.

Lots of photos in this entry, so click below if you’d like to see ’em. And be sure to leave comments – Kim is eager to read them!

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Friday Blogging

Since it’s Friday and I haven’t blogged in ten days, I’ll just give you a few little things here and there to look over during the weekend. First off, Jill over at Feminist has posted this letter from the fervently Christian Jennie, who apparently was overwhelmed by the outside world while attending college, ever so far away from daddy. I seriously doubt all young Christian women “suffer” Jennie’s kind of experience while attending college, nor do I believe that being a Christian woman in the big-scary modern world equals mental anguish. But her letter made me giggle and snicker.

[…]This problem is particularly acute with Christian women, since feminism has slowly but surely crept into the church and stolen our hearts while we were not feeding them with God’s precepts and commands. So many families believe that a young woman, like a young man, is “free and independent” at age 18 or age 21 and should leave home to strike out on her own. This is in total opposition to God’s teachings.

[…]By the time I graduated, I was disillusioned and thoroughly brainwashed into thinking I was going to have to fend for myself in the world. (emphasis mine)

(violins playing) Oh the horror (rolls eyes). Personally I can’t wait until May of 2008, and then shipping off to grad school. But that’s just me.

[…]His Word is true and pure, and we cannot go wrong if we follow Him! Starting in the Pentateuch (Genesis through Deuteronomy), we see that God made woman for man. As much as the feminists hate the idea, it is true. Conversely, man was made to protect, cherish and nourish the woman. Men who are not doing that and are not loving their wives as Christ loved the church are covenant-breakers. Women who refuse to stay home and obey their fathers or husbands are also covenant-breakers. They are inverting God’s created order, which is God-Man-Woman-Animals. (emphasis mine)

(snickers) Wow, my resolve to complete college, go onto grad school, devote pretty much all of my time to my career, and die a spinster is now stronger then ever. And the Great Chain of Being? Puh-leeze. Again, I doubt all young twenty-something single Christian women endure this kind of psychological and spiritual….uh, “trauma”(?) while attending college, and have this bleak outlook on life outside of daddy’s (and the hubby’s) home. Still this is both depressing and hilarious to read. Next, the American Family Association is pissed at American Girl and Girl Inc. for teaming up together recently in their “I Can” band campaign, since Girl Inc. is “pro-abortion” and “pro-lesbian.” Yes, Girl Inc. is pro-reprodcutive-rights and provides resources for sexual orientation issues Yep, Girl Inc. will turn little girls into ‘aborting Sapphists.’

[…]The problem here is that Girls Inc. has on their webpage a statement saying they particularly support abortion and a girl’s right to abort an unwanted baby. They were quite clear about their support for Roe, so there is no mistake or room for confusion on that count. Additionally, Girls Inc. supports contraceptives for girls.

They also support and offer resources encouraging lesbian and bi-sexual lifestyles, actually offering resources for girls. One of their publications states, “The emergence of a lesbian identity is an ongoing process, rather than an event.”[…]

Jessica over at Feministing has her own little commentary on this. I should buy one of these bands just to piss of the AFA. Now onwards to BrutalWomen who has wonderfully gutted this usual crap, written by WorldNetDaily commentator Vox Day (his blog is Vox Popoli.)

Is motherhood instinctive or learned behavior? Both religion and science tell us that it is instinctive, much to the distaste of the feminist ideologists, who have never been overburdened by a solid grasp on either. But one need only watch the way in which a young girl mothers her stuffed animals to see the maternal instinct at work.

Wow! This must mean my three-year-old nephew is Transgender because he loves and cuddles all over his stuffed animals, and even plays with his cousins’ Barbie dolls. But I’m sure with this guy’s vast knowledge of all that is Human Nature and Evolution, he must have a bullshit an explanation for my nephew’s behavior.

[…]And a woman foolish enough to wait more than two decades before attempting to have children has no one to blame but herself. As for the likelihood that the technological future will eventually solve such problems, it is worth noting that no society that possesses artificial wombs, robot sex dolls, multiplayer video games and 24-hour sports networks is one in which men are likely to show a tremendous amount of interest in relationships or the opposite sex.

Fortunately, as we have not yet reached Nerdvana, there are a number of steps that a woman whose priority remains marriage and children can take in order to happily achieve those goals:

Don’t engage in casual dating relationships after 18. They’re fun, and they’ll also prevent you from pursuing more fruitful relationships.

Make those potential long-term relationships your top priority. If you put college or your job first, there’s a reasonable chance that a job is all you’ll have at 40 … and 60. Consider the president’s new Supreme Court nominee. The unmarried and childless Creepy McCrypto is on the verge of becoming one of the two most powerful professional women in the country ““ does she really represent the ideal American woman?

McCrypto?! WTF!

Settle earlier rather than later. I can’t tell you how many women I know who blew off good men in their late teens and early 20s who now regret doing so. Those who are not still single at 35 are now married to men generally considered to be of lower quality than the men they spurned before. Remember, your choices narrow as you get older, while men’s choices broaden.

Let everyone know that marriage and children is your ultimate goal. Too many women, fearing the wrath of the Sisterhood, secretly wish for them while publicly and piously professing feminist-approved cant to the contrary.

Bait-and-switch doesn’t work. Unlike their female counterparts, men who say they don’t want to get married or have kids usually mean it. Play that game and he’ll be perfectly justified in dumping your dishonest posterior despite your time-investment in him.

Don’t hesitate to end relationships that aren’t leading toward marriage, or with men who are less than completely positive about the near-term prospect of children. If he hasn’t proposed in 18 months, he has no intention of doing so. Cut your losses. Most men know how to string women along and know they’ll have no problem replacing you when you finally call their bluff. Never confuse the masculine desire for conflict avoidance with malleability.

Shed your man-hating friends, as well as those who buy seriously into the Equalitarian dogma. Misery loves company and miserable women like nothing better than to make everyone within a five-mile radius miserable, too.

Be brutal when assessing the men who are interested in you. Too many women make the mistake of looking only at a man’s desirable traits and ignoring his weaknesses early on. But it’s not the first kiss that matters ““ it’s the happily-ever-after part. The way he treats others is the way he will eventually treat you.

If you want the odds of easily bearing healthy children to be in your favor, set a goal of marrying by 25. You can always go back to school, you can’t go back in time.

Remember that love is a choice, an action and a commitment, it is not a feeling.

You know I am very glad that I do not measure up to this guy’s perverse standards of the “ideal American women,” and my goals in life are nothing–at this time–in the least bit close to what this guy is preachin’ all women should do. Yeesh. And now for some commentary on Harriet Miers (not “McCrypto”) by BitchPhd to top it off;

But I am wondering if, on the contrary, it might not be the case that an true believer who isn’t a great legal mind–which is what I suspect Miers is–might not be far more dangerous, precisely because she will have the power to rule without the intelligence or background to respect either the precedents or the consequences that form the context for her ruling. Also, in terms of preparing cases to go before a court, if you know how the judges you’re presenting to think, and you also trust that–whether or not you like the way they think–they have a judicial philosophy that is, at least, consistent and rigorous, then you can prepare arguments to appeal to that. If you’ve got someone who, as Miers is reported to have done, will generously agree to meet with people she disagrees with, listen to their arguments, and then simply dismiss them by saying that she doesn’t agree–without giving you anything to go on about why she doesn’t agree, or how to address the premises she uses to form judgments with–then there’s nowhere to go. I very much fear that, as a judge, Miers will play the role of the fundamentalist you argue with about evolution or feminism or the ACLU, someone who no matter what evidence you present them with, simply says, “no, those things are wrong and evil because I believe they are.”

And I think that having someone in power who is not amenable to reason is very dangerous indeed.

Yeah, I’m not exactly slap-happy about Miers’ nomination but “McCrypto?!” Whatever. Anyway enjoy your weekend, because I won’t. Damn midterms are next week so I will be glaring at textbooks most of the time.

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I'm not just an incubator

In the booklet Listen: your baby’s life before birth, which I received as part of a pack of free samples from various companies, there’s a page devoted to the way hormones cross the placenta, allowing the unborn child to experience, in its own way, the mother’s emotional reactions. It goes on to warn:

Repeated maternal stress should always be avoided during pregnancy, as it may alter the baby’s patterns of sleep and activity on a permanent basis.

That passive construction makes me suspicious. Who’s responsible for avoiding maternal stress? Is it simply saying that we should, as a society, avoid putting pregnant women under too much stress? I could heartily endorse that position. Or is it suggesting that pregnant women, along with everything else we expect of them, have a responsibility to their unborn babies not to get stressed out?

The second half of the sentence isn’t promising either. In my experience of repeated maternal stress, the baby’s sleep patterns are the smallest problem. Stress can make a pregnant women vulnerable to all kinds of health niggles, some of which can turn into serious health problems if they’re not picked up. Stress can lead to depression, to lack of interest in preparations for the baby’s arrival, to dark thoughts of whether it’s too late for abortion. Repeated maternal stress should be avoided because it’s bad for the mother, not just because it could be bad for the baby.

Before I was pregnant, I thought “woman, what woman?” was an attitude held only by fairly extreme pro-lifers who had never come into contact with a pregnant woman in all their sheltered lives. But to my surprise, I keep seeing a very similar attitude from people who provide health care to pregnant women on a daily basis. They talk to me, they look me in the eye, they ask me how I am, but under the surface, I get a distinct impression that they see me as an incubator. The baby is all that matters.

My health visitor – a trained midwife charged with making sure new families have all the support they need – asked me during a routine check-up whether I was eating well. I replied that I was doing my best – a flared-up infection had left me with a low fever, aching joints and no desire to do anything but sleep, and had disrupted my eating patterns for a few days – and got a lecture about how my best wasn’t good enough. I had to eat a perfectly healthy diet at all times because the baby needs nutrients.

A pregnant woman needs to eat well for her own sake, not just the baby’s. Iron-deficiency anaemia is especially common in pregnancy, and makes any tired, lethargic feelings even worse. More seriously, if her diet doesn’t supply enough calcium for her needs and the baby’s, Mother Nature harshly dictates that the baby comes first. If the price of strong bones for the little one is erosion of the mother’s teeth, too bad for the mother’s teeth.

Why didn’t my health visitor remind me of these health issues? Why did she concentrate instead on the harm an inadequate diet could do my baby? I think the answer lies in a belief that goes deep in our society: a pregnant woman is a womb first and a human being second. Because I’ve chosen to have this baby, many people assume I’ve also chosen to put my personality to one side for at least nine months and think about nothing but the baby, all day and all night.

Sometimes I do put the baby’s needs before my own wishes – when I switch to orange juice after the first beer rather than run the risk of damaging the baby with my pre-pregnancy alcohol consumption, for instance. And sometimes, knowing I’m helping my baby as well as myself gives me the courage to stand up for things I wouldn’t otherwise stand up for. But other times, I’m just myself; the same self I was before I was pregnant. I oversleep and skip breakfast. I walk a couple of miles to take in a football match. I grieve for the bits of my past that didn’t stop hurting just because I have a new life inside me.

I don’t believe I’m unusual in any of this. I guess most women who are pregnant by choice and looking forward to having the baby will want to do the best they can for their child, but I don’t imagine anyone can support nine months of being nothing but an incubator. We all have to balance the baby’s needs against our own – “Yes, it’s better for the baby if I eat wholesome, home-cooked meals, but tonight I’m too shattered to do anything but shove a frozen pizza in the oven” – and sometimes the balance we strike won’t be easy for onlookers to understand.

Women’s choices – especially when it comes to motherhood – come under intense scrutiny from society. I feel as if I need to defend myself against the charges of skipping breakfast, thereby depriving my baby of vital nutrients; of letting myself get stressed, thereby disrupting my baby’s sleep patterns; of being unfit to be pregnant in the first place, thereby forcing my baby to develop in a sub-standard womb. The world throws advice at me from all sides, and I have neither the experience nor the confidence to sort out the vital from the trivial. I defer to the greater experience of medical professionals, but they invariably err on the side of protecting the baby from every possible harm.

In the early days of my pregnancy, I became concerned that the vitamin C tablets I was taking for my own health and comfort had an advisory on the packaging that they shouldn’t be taken during pregnancy without medical advice. I checked with my doctor; he told me not to take them. He couldn’t point to any specific danger to the baby, but there was “no point” in taking them. He could have informed me of the risks and allowed me to decide for myself whether the benefits outweighed them, but he didn’t.

Treating pregnant women as incubators with no needs or wishes of their own isn’t just anti-feminist, it’s probably also counter-productive. If the medical establishment doesn’t seem interested in meeting my needs, I’m going to start trusting it less. This is fine if I can simultaneously develop my own robust sense of what risks are acceptable – like my mother, who by her fourth child had a very good idea of how much alcohol she could safely consume during pregnancy – but I could all too easily come to dangerously wrong conclusions. Disregarding the advice that there’s no point taking vitamin C probably won’t do much harm; disregarding the advice that headaches and blurred vision are grounds for an immediate trip to the hospital could be fatal to mother and child.

Pregnant women are as capable of making their own decisions as any other segment of the population. We know what’s right for us, and if we’re given enough information, we can co-ordinate that with what’s right for our babies and strike a balance. But society – and given my defensiveness I’m inclined to consider myself part of the problem – needs to stop brushing our needs aside as trivial and start trusting us to make those decisions.

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Links to various bits of silliness

Harry Potter and the Hogwarts Dance Team
Matt introduced the Hogwarts Dance Team to me by saying, “I’m not someone who uses ‘gay’ as an adjective. But this is the gayest thing I’ve ever seen.” It’s awesome – well worth the download time.

“The Aristocrats” as Bob Newhart would perform it
If you’ve never heard recordings of Bob Newhart’s old stand-up comedy, you’ve missed some great stuff. I’m not sure how funny this will be if you haven’t heard Newhart’s stand-up, but if you have heard it this is very giggleworthy.

“He Is The Box”
Law professor Ann Althouse blogs:

“He is the box.” Said by me in a discussion just now with a colleague. Topic: how Harriet Miers will behave if she gets to the Supreme Court. The “he” is Justice Scalia.

Her readers respond in comments by suggesting a number of increasingly ridiculous contexts in which Ann might have said “He is the box.” They also suggest a number of songs, for some reason. Probably the most fun I’ve ever had reading the comments on a law professor’s blog.

Upcoming News
A very funny (or horrifying) prediction of what the newspapers will be saying when Alan Greenspan’s replacement is named.

The Convertible Armchair / Stovetop
Vestal Design presents this very neat spacesaving solution. Because “you’ll never sit and cook at the same time.” (Hat tip: Boing Boing.)

The Far Side Lives On
As Chris Bertram points out, this quote – from a perfectly serious book about “alternative country music” – would make a fine caption for a Far Side cartoon.

Lazily labelled as “folk rock” during their ten-year career together, Richard and Linda were as attuned to Americana as anyone living in a Sufi commune in rural Norfolk could ever hope to be.

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Monday Baby Blogging – Final edition as an only child!

In honor of Sydney’s last week as an only child, here are various cute photos of Syndey playing by herself.

Sydney with Cthulu doll

When I say “by herself,” I’m not counting her Cthulhu doll, which Phil and I got her for her first birthday.

Cthulhu doll

I heart this doll.

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