This is a post about two groups of fuckers.
The first group of fuckers are the parents, students, and school administrators of the Itawamba Agricultural High School. As you may remember, IAHS is where a lesbian high school senior, Constance McMillen, was told that she couldn’t bring a female date to the prom … and when she persisted, the high school actually canceled the prom rather than run the risk of a couple of lesbians being happy for an evening. With the aid of the ACLU she brought suit, and (of course) the judge ruled that the school had violated Constance’s civil rights.
The prom was back on! Yay! Constance was told that the prom would be held at a country club in Fulton, Miss., but when she arrived, she discovered that she’d been sent to a ‘fake prom’ attended by only 5 other students. In a nice bit of homophobia/disabled-phobia crossover, two of those five were learning disabled.
Constance was pretty cool about the whole thing, (as I imagine you would have to be, growing up in a place like that) saying about the disabled kids, “They had the time of their lives. That’s the one good thing that come out of this, [these kids] didn’t have to worry about people making fun of them [at their prom].”
Meanwhile, of course, the rest of the parents and students had their own, ‘secret’ prom at a location outside the county, where they could safely exclude undesirables like gay and disabled people while engaging in pretend-lesbianism for the benefit of any straight boys who might be watching.
Okay, so that’s the first group of fuckers. Cruel, vile, vicious people who decided to deliberately and hurtfully exclude their classmates. I hope they suffer. Specifically I hope they suffer by being stuck in Itawamba county Mississippi for the rest of their miserable, bigoted little lives, while Constance goes on to get the fuck out and have a rich, full life.
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Sadly, though, the second group of fuckers are the commenters over at Firedoglake, who, in a thread about the secret-prom-fakeout decided to Facebook-stalk and identify several seniors at IAHS who posted in defense of the secret prom. Not only identify, but in some cases post oblique threats like,
Congratulations, [begleg10], you have just rendered yourself unemployable in any decent place. Decent places have laws against discrimination history on the basis of sexual orientation. Your public history of homophobic bigotry makes you a discrimination lawsuit waiting to happen.
Other commenters posted bits of their personal information and talked about how they were sending nasty messages to their facebook profiles.
Okay. Look. Guys. I don’t like this any more than you do, but these are teenage girls who commented anonymously. I think it’s incumbent on everyone to respect that privacy. I don’t respect them personally, and I don’t have to. You don’t have to respect them in order to not invade their privacy and harass them online. Jesus. This shit isn’t that hard.
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Three final comments.
1) Of course, the first thing this reminds me of is that this was precisely what bigoted southern parents did when confronted with racially integrated proms. As recently as 1990, 10 counties in Georgia were holding private, segregated proms. Charleston, Mississippi’s first integrated prom was held in 2008, thanks to Morgan Freeman. I just can’t imagine holding on to hate that tightly for so long. Fuckers.
2 ) It’s interesting, isn’t it, that two girls kissing is perfectly acceptable as long as it’s clear that they’re both straight. It’s only is a situation where they might be kissing for their own pleasure that it becomes a problem. Because after all, male sexual titillation is the alpha and omega of meaning. Fuckers.
3) Finally, a continuing trend in discussions of this is folks from the area, or from the south in general, upset about negative stereotypes of the south that are repeated in discussions of this story. I think there’s something to that, sure … it’s not cool to assume that everyone from Alabama is an ignorant hick … on the other hand, there’s a certain irony in hearing this complaint from people who are defending the secret prom and institutional homophobia. Like, your entire town can’t act like bigoted assholes and then get upset when everyone calls them bigoted assholes. Fuckers.
And a one last comment, courtesy the divine Ms. Nina Simone:
Please do not comment unless you accept the basic dignity, equality, and inherent worth of all people
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